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Back story. Ex served me over a year ago. The claim as to set aside our separation agreement with no other claims. Fast forward to today we have had OCL involvement and it sided in my favor. Child lives with me and sees dad EOW, and 1 dinner a week.
My ex is a spender. Like an addiction. He ruined me financially with all the financial abuse during the marriage. The house was sold and there was little equity left to share. I invested and saved mine. And he spent all of his. I know this cause he told me he bought Mutual Funds with it but his financial statement (a year later) didn't include it. We asked cause I knew about it but they said he didn't have any.
Fast forward to today, he is seeking to amending his pleadings for SS. Now the only reason he has to support getting SS, is the difference in income. He currently lives with his new partner where he doesn't pay rent and little bills (financial statement) and has purchase big ticket items since, vehicles (4 all together but I'm assuming incurring more debt with negative equity). Basically he is living the good life while claiming he's poor and living a very low standard of living. He's said so on the amending pleadings which we seen, just not filed.
So we have made 2 offers now, and he has make one. I think my latest offer is fair. Its the worked out amount of equalization with pay out from my pension. Remember I don't have other assets or cash except the little amount from the house sale. My pension is all I got.
They are now asking for about the same in pension, but a cash payout that equals about half of what I have, and they will not pursue SS.
Its a tough pill to swallow. When we were married I worried about money every day. He spent spent and spent some more. Now then I have positioned myself better, bills are all paid on time, I have no debt except my car and cc's that I use and pay off. And that little bit of savings that I've worked hard to build and keep, my dream is to buy a house.
So long story I know. I'm looking for opinions.
1. Say no - push to trial (maybe) or a better offer. I can prove his not living poor and that he has been lying about a lot of stuff. If it wasn't for the income difference I think I could win
2. Agree to the cash. this literally makes me sick as he will squander my hard earned savings.
3. Counter again, with a smaller cash payout. Like 3/4 of what he his asking for. He desperate for cash now.
One thing to note, the last "offer" from him wasn't technically an offer but a email to my lawyer with the cash payout in exchange to no SS.
My ex is a spender. Like an addiction. He ruined me financially with all the financial abuse during the marriage. The house was sold and there was little equity left to share. I invested and saved mine. And he spent all of his. I know this cause he told me he bought Mutual Funds with it but his financial statement (a year later) didn't include it. We asked cause I knew about it but they said he didn't have any.
Fast forward to today, he is seeking to amending his pleadings for SS. Now the only reason he has to support getting SS, is the difference in income. He currently lives with his new partner where he doesn't pay rent and little bills (financial statement) and has purchase big ticket items since, vehicles (4 all together but I'm assuming incurring more debt with negative equity). Basically he is living the good life while claiming he's poor and living a very low standard of living. He's said so on the amending pleadings which we seen, just not filed.
So we have made 2 offers now, and he has make one. I think my latest offer is fair. Its the worked out amount of equalization with pay out from my pension. Remember I don't have other assets or cash except the little amount from the house sale. My pension is all I got.
They are now asking for about the same in pension, but a cash payout that equals about half of what I have, and they will not pursue SS.
Its a tough pill to swallow. When we were married I worried about money every day. He spent spent and spent some more. Now then I have positioned myself better, bills are all paid on time, I have no debt except my car and cc's that I use and pay off. And that little bit of savings that I've worked hard to build and keep, my dream is to buy a house.
So long story I know. I'm looking for opinions.
1. Say no - push to trial (maybe) or a better offer. I can prove his not living poor and that he has been lying about a lot of stuff. If it wasn't for the income difference I think I could win
2. Agree to the cash. this literally makes me sick as he will squander my hard earned savings.
3. Counter again, with a smaller cash payout. Like 3/4 of what he his asking for. He desperate for cash now.
One thing to note, the last "offer" from him wasn't technically an offer but a email to my lawyer with the cash payout in exchange to no SS.
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