Review of Offset Child Support

[Mom2414]

Offset child support in equal/shared parenting situation is the biggest racket ever. If I knew then what I know now, I would have gotten a donor instead my boob of an ex.


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[StillPaying]

What I am trying to say is that we have equal parenting and the offset child support I pay to her is just gravy as she is well off, whereas, despite me earning more, I am not well off and could really use the money. Isn't child support to benefit the children? Well in that case, it is certainly more needed in my household (which the kids live 50% in)

You went from only paying full table support, to now receiving full table support as well as half CRA benefits. You saved lots while ex lost huge. Imputation could do even more.

[Tayken]

And in the future if you found a new partner that made a great income you�d then be okay paying her more support? It goes both ways. What is fair is that parents support their children. It�s not a household thing. If your ex is working like she always has, you have no argument. Because she landed a wealthy man doesn�t change anything.

Bingo.

The sauce that is good for the goose is good for the gander. You can't blow hot and cold. Etc...

Child support shouldn't bankrupt someone. Usually it is other financial decisions that impact a payors ability to pay and not child support.

[Berner_Faith]

What I am trying to say is that we have equal parenting and the offset child support I pay to her is just gravy as she is well off, whereas, despite me earning more, I am not well off and could really use the money. Isn't child support to benefit the children? Well in that case, it is certainly more needed in my household (which the kids live 50% in)

And in the future if you found a new partner that made a great income you’d then be okay paying her more support? It goes both ways. What is fair is that parents support their children. It’s not a household thing. If your ex is working like she always has, you have no argument. Because she landed a wealthy man doesn’t change anything


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[rockscan]

Technically she is not well off, her new partner is. He could leave her and she would be back to being not well off.

[StillPaying]

Lost it with your reasoning, but what if you imputed your ex with a similar income as yours. Problem solved.

[rockscan]

SP is right. You would need to get an income imputed to your ex. Especially if she is underemployed because of her new spouse.

I will say though, as the spouse of someone who pays cs, it isn’t fair for the new partner to have to pay a cost even if they aren’t specifically paying. My husband’s ex tried to argue she was entitled to more support as we had such a great lifestyle and travelled so much. That was all my money. I pay more around the house because my income is higher and I want us to have a nice lifestyle. I should not have to cover all the expenses so my husband’s kids get more than they are entitled to.

It is a shitty situation for sure but one that you can’t change unless she is purposely underemployed and you argue it successfully. You too could find a new partner who helps with your living expenses.

[StillPaying]

There are some long ago posts on how it should really be "half-offset" I believe to make it fair, but offset is still a nice discount. The tool we have is to impute a reasonable income to make sure it's right. And maybe work with a lawyer to fix proper offset.