Interest on equalization payment

[Janus]

(Do you remember that one. The one with the case law where the parent egged the other parent.)

I do remember that one

Usually, the information is more valuable than evidence.

Fair enough, I can agree with that.

[Tayken]

Hard to prove that an anonymous username is tied to a specific person. I would just flat out deny it, and laugh at the my ex if she tried to claim that I was Janus.

Even if she knew I was, that's not even close to the same thing as proving it.

Most don't use it in court. Unless well, you admit to being the person in the posted case law as one case happened here. (Do you remember that one. The one with the case law where the parent egged the other parent.) That one ended up in court because well, the poster admitted to the fact that they were the poster. But that is rare.

Usually, the information is more valuable than evidence. Many people give up their "theory of the case". Its like laying out your whole legal strategy no-holds-barred for the other party to read in full. Its deadly knowledge in the hands of a great barrister. Watched it first hand a few times now.

[Janus]

I know two posters on here where their ex found them and used the posts in court filings. And they aren�t private investigator people. I hadn�t thought of that Tayken and now it brings this case to a whole new level.

Hard to prove that an anonymous username is tied to a specific person. I would just flat out deny it, and laugh at the my ex if she tried to claim that I was Janus.

Even if she knew I was, that's not even close to the same thing as proving it.

[trueblue22]

If your third lawyer said u have a claim
On the increased value since the date of separation I would be surprised. If his name is only on title You would only be entitled to the amount as of the date of separation and not in the increase. Now if ur lawyer says u have Contributed to the down payment, you will need records of this. If it is only 10% I would argue ur Entitlement to only 10% of the increase in value.

The house was originally in both our names but since we had help with the down payment from his parents they have a lien on the property. I put in about 25% of the down payment. I transfered the title of the house to him when my ex business partner counter sued me so that I wouldn't have any assets he could claim against.

I tried to get him to agree I have a resulting trust claim on the house but his lawyer said no. My lawyer isn't sure how strong my trust claim will be.

[OB1]

If your third lawyer said u have a claim
On the increased value since the date of separation I would be surprised. If his name is only on title You would only be entitled to the amount as of the date of separation and not in the increase. Now if ur lawyer says u have Contributed to the down payment, you will need records of this. If it is only 10% I would argue ur Entitlement to only 10% of the increase in value.

[rockscan]

I don't think he'll spend the time and money to look up on divorce forums if I'm posting anything on here.

I know two posters on here where their ex found them and used the posts in court filings. And they aren’t private investigator people. I hadn’t thought of that Tayken and now it brings this case to a whole new level.


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[trueblue22]

If your ex has as much money as you say... his PI has already figured out it is you posting this message and they are basically going to crush you. Trust me... 90% of the high income earners now pay for a proper deep internet search to find gems like this. OttawaDivorce is well known to the high-end family law industry. Trust me... others have been located on this site. AI engines can find lots of cool stuff... I know...

I don't think he'll spend the time and money to look up on divorce forums if I'm posting anything on here.

[Tayken]

I don't want to have to rent. I don't want to be paying off someone's mortgage. If I am going to have to fight my ex I'll rather be sitting in my house as a form of leverage.

I got a third opinion from another lawyer and was advised that since I contributed to the down payment of the home I have a strong trust claim to share in the increased value since separation even if my name isn't on title. I put in about 10% of the down payment.

If your ex has as much money as you say... his PI has already figured out it is you posting this message and they are basically going to crush you. Trust me... 90% of the high income earners now pay for a proper deep internet search to find gems like this. OttawaDivorce is well known to the high-end family law industry. Trust me... others have been located on this site. AI engines can find lots of cool stuff... I know...

[trueblue22]

In this overheated market I’m happy as a clam to be selling the matrimonial home and renting.

I don't want to have to rent. I don't want to be paying off someone's mortgage. If I am going to have to fight my ex I'll rather be sitting in my house as a form of leverage.

I got a third opinion from another lawyer and was advised that since I contributed to the down payment of the home I have a strong trust claim to share in the increased value since separation even if my name isn't on title. I put in about 10% of the down payment.

[Tayken]

In this overheated market I’m happy as a clam to be selling the matrimonial home and renting.

Until the owner of the unit boots you out because they are extracting the equity gain on their "rental property". Some families have moved almost once a year in the past 10 years because of this. No one really wants to live in a true "rental unit" that won't be sold. Bedbugs and nasty stuff in them. As well, even some of these traditional rental high rises are being taken over and converted to condos as the apartments are HUGE.

[UnderPressure]

In this overheated market I’m happy as a clam to be selling the matrimonial home and renting.

[Stillbreathing]

Yes the situations are different. I do believe her best course of action is to sell the home whether her fears are justified or not. Her actions are likely rooted in fear of some sort as evidenced by her response fearing if she sells the home she will not be able to access the funds left in trust but the lawyers will. That is a realistic fear and does and can happen. That happened to me.
To the OP, divorce is painful and unfair and some of your worst fears may come true, however you have the choice of making things better for yourself or worse. Your ex does have the legal right to half the equity in the home. You do not have the legal right to lock him out of his house. Sure you can change the locks but he can come with his own locksmith and change the locks too. In fact you can both play that game and continually change the locks without giving the other a key. If you or he have to break a window to get in you are both allowed to as it’s both your home. My ex tried playing the game of padlocking the gates to our property to lock me out so I had a friend of mine use a bolt cutter every time. That game went on for a few weeks before my ex got tired of purchasing new locks. The law may not seem fair at times but you have to abide by it.
If you are living in the home and your ex is not, you may have to pay your ex occupation rent for that time. If it takes several years to settle your matter you may be on the hook for several years occupation rent to your ex which will be taken out of your settlement. Do you want that?

Staying in the matrimonial home can be more stressful than moving out. I had a court order for exclusive possession and moved out and went into hiding as my ex carried things a lot further than locking me out ( he booby trapped the property).

In your case
You can change the locks as many times as you wish but so can he. Do you really want to play that game?
You both own 50% of the home which includes equity and expenses.Can you afford to pay him out and then cover 100% of the expenses? If yes, make him an offer. If no, put the house up for sale.

Is divorce painful and unfair? Yes it is. There is nothing you can do about that so move on and make new goals in your life that you do have control over.

I’m sorry you are going through this but the other posters here have given you good advice and do know what they are talking about.

[rockscan]

Trueblue22 your worries are exactly what happened to me. They can force the sale of the home whether you like it or not and whether it leaves you destitute or not. It does in fact provide a lovely pot of instant money for the lawyers to access. Five years ago a judge released a lot of money ( long spent now) to my lawyer for legal fees and 5000 to me to feed, clothe and house my children ( whom I have full custody of) until trial. Let’s see, it’s been 5 years now ..., so 1000/year or 83.33/ month to house, feed and clothe my children and myself... We’d all have starved to death long ago had I not thought to myself, f the judge I have to do what I gave to do to provide for my children. Needless to say, my ex was surprised when I did what I had to do to feed and take care of my kids. The judge was surprised too but totally understood and even said I had in hindsight made the best decision for the children . He went on to say that if he were our trial judge he would have agreed with my decision. The court is under the misguided assumption that selling the home will
somehow, miraculously make you and your ex settle things more quickly. In most
cases this is true.

I would recommend you allow the house to be sold. It’s not fair, especially if it’s owed to you fully paid for ( as in my case) but the law is rigid and always starts with the premise that it is half the other spouse’s. The law is not willing to wait until you go to trial to prove that you are entitled to an unequal division of assets or prove that your worse half owes the home to you as part of the equalization.

The law only pays lip service to the best interest of the kids, only the parents can truely know the best interest of the kids. In my case the best interests of my kids was not to be living under a bridge or begging for food while we waited for years and years to go to trial. In all fairness, the judge had no idea the litigation would be going on this long and in fact never end... I however knew that this would be the case. So I did what I had to do and now I have an excellent job, housing and no problems feeding or clothing my kids.

Get this painful part of your life over with. Sell the damn house and move on with your life. It’s not worth the stress and aggravation to try to hold on to it. The best revenge is to make something of yourself despite ongoing, never ending litigation and your house funds stuck in limbo for years. It sure as hell pissed off my ex that I am now making almost triple the amount of money I made in any given year during our marriage. I’ve taken courses, improved myself and have several projects on the go that keep my mind hopeful on a future that has nothing to do with our relentless litigation. My ex set out to destroy every source of income I had and it infuriates him that the children and I are thriving despite everything he has done. Now that’s the kind of revenge you should aim for!!!!

SB, you and OP are so not the same. This is a case of someone believing they are entitled to more and expecting their ex to continue to finance their lifestyle as long as they want with as much money as they want because their ex makes six figures. In reality she has lived for free in a house in her ex’s name and thinks he should hand it over and continue to pay her spousal and child support. They also have 50/50 and locked him out of HIS house because he was showing up to see the kids without her power.


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[Stillbreathing]

Trueblue22 your worries are exactly what happened to me. They can force the sale of the home whether you like it or not and whether it leaves you destitute or not. It does in fact provide a lovely pot of instant money for the lawyers to access. Five years ago a judge released a lot of money ( long spent now) to my lawyer for legal fees and 5000 to me to feed, clothe and house my children ( whom I have full custody of) until trial. Let’s see, it’s been 5 years now ..., so 1000/year or 83.33/ month to house, feed and clothe my children and myself... We’d all have starved to death long ago had I not thought to myself, f the judge I have to do what I gave to do to provide for my children. Needless to say, my ex was surprised when I did what I had to do to feed and take care of my kids. The judge was surprised too but totally understood and even said I had in hindsight made the best decision for the children . He went on to say that if he were our trial judge he would have agreed with my decision. The court is under the misguided assumption that selling the home will
somehow, miraculously make you and your ex settle things more quickly. In most
cases this is true.

I would recommend you allow the house to be sold. It’s not fair, especially if it’s owed to you fully paid for ( as in my case) but the law is rigid and always starts with the premise that it is half the other spouse’s. The law is not willing to wait until you go to trial to prove that you are entitled to an unequal division of assets or prove that your worse half owes the home to you as part of the equalization.

The law only pays lip service to the best interest of the kids, only the parents can truely know the best interest of the kids. In my case the best interests of my kids was not to be living under a bridge or begging for food while we waited for years and years to go to trial. In all fairness, the judge had no idea the litigation would be going on this long and in fact never end... I however knew that this would be the case. So I did what I had to do and now I have an excellent job, housing and no problems feeding or clothing my kids.

Get this painful part of your life over with. Sell the damn house and move on with your life. It’s not worth the stress and aggravation to try to hold on to it. The best revenge is to make something of yourself despite ongoing, never ending litigation and your house funds stuck in limbo for years. It sure as hell pissed off my ex that I am now making almost triple the amount of money I made in any given year during our marriage. I’ve taken courses, improved myself and have several projects on the go that keep my mind hopeful on a future that has nothing to do with our relentless litigation. My ex set out to destroy every source of income I had and it infuriates him that the children and I are thriving despite everything he has done. Now that’s the kind of revenge you should aim for!!!!

[rockscan]

This is exactly what I don't want to happen. If the house sells and my ex is mortgage free he'll get a new property, build equity and not be forced to care about my wellbeing while money I need to live is sitting in trust. Not to mention I think the lawyers will have a pool of money they know they can access to request all legal fees be paid from so they are more motivated to keep the case going.

Stillbreathings case involves an unreasonable ex who won’t work collaboratively and settle the matter. You can’t compare yourself to her as you are the one being unreasonable. If you don’t want this to happen, figure out what you are entitled to and settle your matter. Your ex clearly wants to move on with his life and cut his unnecessary ties to you. YOU are the one making unnecessary demands and holding things up. Your lawyer will blow smoke up your ass to increase their billings. Do the research and get your shit together.


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