I know you aren’t supposed to question how CS is utilized and trust your ex to use it to provide for the kids. I regularly pay CS and am happy to provide it as I see it as belonging to the kids. However there is something going on that I wouldn’t mind the forums insight...
But what if the CS isn’t used on kids? No, it’s not used on feeding a drug habit so it’s not like I can go running to court. What is going on is that the CS is straight up going into my ex’s RRSPs and personal bank account. It’s certainly not being used on the kids. I am not seen as a parent, but rather a source of income. My ex wanted to maintain as though she is a 2 income family, which must be nice, all while I struggle. I pick up the kids and they are in raggedy clothes, whereby I return them in decent clothes which I had to purchase. Very noticeable. I ask ex to pack their swimsuits so that I can take them swimming, and am told they don’t own swimsuits as she doesn’t take them swimming. So guess who’s on the hook buying swimsuits? Seems like I am buying LOTS of things that they “should” have....given the monthly CS I provide is nothing to sneeze at! She figures I’ll buy all the extra stuff so why should she bother...
Pursue unjust enrichment? It’s hard to prove and I don’t think judges want their courts clogged with stuff like that. Plus it would cost more in legal fees to pursue than what it’s worth. And my top focus was custody and access in court to keep it straight forward for as quick of resolution as possible. My lawyer is aware of her pursuit of CS as a monthly windfall and his best advice is to keep all receipts should she ever try to re-open custody and access.
Any advice would be appreciated! Oh yeah, having an “open conversation” about the subject would open the largest can of junk imaginable as my ex is impossible and irrational.
But what if the CS isn’t used on kids? No, it’s not used on feeding a drug habit so it’s not like I can go running to court. What is going on is that the CS is straight up going into my ex’s RRSPs and personal bank account. It’s certainly not being used on the kids. I am not seen as a parent, but rather a source of income. My ex wanted to maintain as though she is a 2 income family, which must be nice, all while I struggle. I pick up the kids and they are in raggedy clothes, whereby I return them in decent clothes which I had to purchase. Very noticeable. I ask ex to pack their swimsuits so that I can take them swimming, and am told they don’t own swimsuits as she doesn’t take them swimming. So guess who’s on the hook buying swimsuits? Seems like I am buying LOTS of things that they “should” have....given the monthly CS I provide is nothing to sneeze at! She figures I’ll buy all the extra stuff so why should she bother...
Pursue unjust enrichment? It’s hard to prove and I don’t think judges want their courts clogged with stuff like that. Plus it would cost more in legal fees to pursue than what it’s worth. And my top focus was custody and access in court to keep it straight forward for as quick of resolution as possible. My lawyer is aware of her pursuit of CS as a monthly windfall and his best advice is to keep all receipts should she ever try to re-open custody and access.
Any advice would be appreciated! Oh yeah, having an “open conversation” about the subject would open the largest can of junk imaginable as my ex is impossible and irrational.
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