Hello all.
History - Divorced 10 years ago and paid Child support for 3 children as per Child Support guidelines on the 15th of every month to FRO (Never a day late)
Like 90% of the population I expected support to end when kids reached 18years old and that I would get to deal with them directly but my ex wife wad quick to point out that this was not in our divorce agreement and I still had to pay through FRO until kids were done with post secondary education.
Not happy. Wanted to help them direct but continued to pay through FRO each month.
Over 10 years my cost of living had risen but income remained the same. I struggled to make payments and ran up an overdraft and two credit cards to insure I kept paying CS on time. I knew one day it would end and that I would have fulfilled my duty as a father supporting his kids.
This past Spring I was told by my oldest child that her two younger siblings had not gone to school for the past year. They had dropped out and were working full time. I was upset to hear this as my ex wife had not told me but was still collecting support from me for them.
I contacted her to discuss. I was maxed out financially and at least should have been informed and a support adjustment should have been made. I told her I felt she had cheated me. Why was I sending support if they were not in school? They were working full time and according to them paying for everything themselves. (Ages 19 + 21).
I said I wanted the money back. I said I wanted to deal direct with my kids. She told me to give support to my oldest (22yr old) who needed money for a 2 month trip to SE Asia and that FRO would be contacting me with a new payment plan for my youngest who was headed off to University. GREAT! Finally some light at the end of the tunnel.
Then after a long wait it happened. A call from FRO. I was excited to hear the new deal and get it underway.
Things took a quick turn for the worse. The call from FRO was to let me know they were suspending my drivers licence and contacting my employer to deduct ongoing for my youngest and 50% of what's left for arrears.
I thought. There has got to be a mistske. My ex wife would not let this happen. I contacted her - she didn't care. I told her I over paid last year and I had given a ton of $ to my oldest under her instruction. I was not in "arrears"
But she didn't care. I asked her repeatedly to fix it. She collected money from me last year and told me to give direct this year. Why was she trying to collect thois money again?
Even my two oldest daughters confronted her and told her she was wrong. She told them too that she would fix it but never did.
So it happened. Two thirds of my last pay cheque were garnished. I was relying on that pay for Christmas. My rent for Jan is going to be impossible to pay.
I've sacrificed a lot this past 10 years. I have always paid my support, love my kids more than anything and have always given them what they need.
What kind of world is this...
Sorry. Long message... wondering if anyone has any advice
History - Divorced 10 years ago and paid Child support for 3 children as per Child Support guidelines on the 15th of every month to FRO (Never a day late)
Like 90% of the population I expected support to end when kids reached 18years old and that I would get to deal with them directly but my ex wife wad quick to point out that this was not in our divorce agreement and I still had to pay through FRO until kids were done with post secondary education.
Not happy. Wanted to help them direct but continued to pay through FRO each month.
Over 10 years my cost of living had risen but income remained the same. I struggled to make payments and ran up an overdraft and two credit cards to insure I kept paying CS on time. I knew one day it would end and that I would have fulfilled my duty as a father supporting his kids.
This past Spring I was told by my oldest child that her two younger siblings had not gone to school for the past year. They had dropped out and were working full time. I was upset to hear this as my ex wife had not told me but was still collecting support from me for them.
I contacted her to discuss. I was maxed out financially and at least should have been informed and a support adjustment should have been made. I told her I felt she had cheated me. Why was I sending support if they were not in school? They were working full time and according to them paying for everything themselves. (Ages 19 + 21).
I said I wanted the money back. I said I wanted to deal direct with my kids. She told me to give support to my oldest (22yr old) who needed money for a 2 month trip to SE Asia and that FRO would be contacting me with a new payment plan for my youngest who was headed off to University. GREAT! Finally some light at the end of the tunnel.
Then after a long wait it happened. A call from FRO. I was excited to hear the new deal and get it underway.
Things took a quick turn for the worse. The call from FRO was to let me know they were suspending my drivers licence and contacting my employer to deduct ongoing for my youngest and 50% of what's left for arrears.
I thought. There has got to be a mistske. My ex wife would not let this happen. I contacted her - she didn't care. I told her I over paid last year and I had given a ton of $ to my oldest under her instruction. I was not in "arrears"
But she didn't care. I asked her repeatedly to fix it. She collected money from me last year and told me to give direct this year. Why was she trying to collect thois money again?
Even my two oldest daughters confronted her and told her she was wrong. She told them too that she would fix it but never did.
So it happened. Two thirds of my last pay cheque were garnished. I was relying on that pay for Christmas. My rent for Jan is going to be impossible to pay.
I've sacrificed a lot this past 10 years. I have always paid my support, love my kids more than anything and have always given them what they need.
What kind of world is this...
Sorry. Long message... wondering if anyone has any advice
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