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Moved this issue here since it seemed to be hijacking the resource thread.
It is confusing! but here's the breakdown...opinions are welcome.
both boys live full time with me. stbx is eow (sees them 75% of those times) with two evenings that he rarely uses. I receive full table support - I am currently in school to retrain. He's a high income earner (approx $250,000). We divide s7 70/30
I'll list the options highest $ to lowest -
Son1 - entering college in fall 2016
option 1 - lives in residence -
I will not receive cs for the months he is away.
residence seems quite high cost compared to other schools.
$$$$ stbx and I will both be spending the most money on this option despite him reducing cs and son contributing
Benefit to child - absolutely! For all the reasons listed in previous post.
option 2 - commutes from home
bus - train - bus 1.5 hours each way OR we help contribute to purchase of used car
I'll continue to receive cs but it is cheaper for stbx than residence fees/meals/living expenses
Benefit to child - bus etc will be tough and will take dedication, used car will give him bonus of freedom without high cost and can be used for the full 3 year program.
Son2 - entering grade 10 in fall - IB program ONLY available at current school
option 1 - taxi service (still looking for other options but as it stands right now this is all there is)
high cost for both stbx and I
benefit to child - saves him a great deal of time
option 2 - public transit
same as other son - bus-bus-bus 1.5 hours each way
cost benefit to both parents
benefit to child - not really - other than "toughening him up!"
My thought is that we choose the same option for both. Expecting one to use public transit while the other gets all the benefits of the expensive option is simply not fair. BUT - while I believe that short-term sacrifice is worth it for long-term gain both stbx and I both commuted from home when we attended college. I used public transit and his mother gave him her car while she used public transit.
If you were support payor which would you prefer? What do you think legal implications for either of us would be either way?
Originally posted by Rioe
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both boys live full time with me. stbx is eow (sees them 75% of those times) with two evenings that he rarely uses. I receive full table support - I am currently in school to retrain. He's a high income earner (approx $250,000). We divide s7 70/30
I'll list the options highest $ to lowest -
Son1 - entering college in fall 2016
option 1 - lives in residence -
I will not receive cs for the months he is away.
residence seems quite high cost compared to other schools.
$$$$ stbx and I will both be spending the most money on this option despite him reducing cs and son contributing
Benefit to child - absolutely! For all the reasons listed in previous post.
option 2 - commutes from home
bus - train - bus 1.5 hours each way OR we help contribute to purchase of used car
I'll continue to receive cs but it is cheaper for stbx than residence fees/meals/living expenses
Benefit to child - bus etc will be tough and will take dedication, used car will give him bonus of freedom without high cost and can be used for the full 3 year program.
Son2 - entering grade 10 in fall - IB program ONLY available at current school
option 1 - taxi service (still looking for other options but as it stands right now this is all there is)
high cost for both stbx and I
benefit to child - saves him a great deal of time
option 2 - public transit
same as other son - bus-bus-bus 1.5 hours each way
cost benefit to both parents
benefit to child - not really - other than "toughening him up!"
My thought is that we choose the same option for both. Expecting one to use public transit while the other gets all the benefits of the expensive option is simply not fair. BUT - while I believe that short-term sacrifice is worth it for long-term gain both stbx and I both commuted from home when we attended college. I used public transit and his mother gave him her car while she used public transit.
If you were support payor which would you prefer? What do you think legal implications for either of us would be either way?
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