All aboard the crazy train...

[beenthere]

Hi all, just an update:

Background - Ex & D (adult) would not admit the D had quit uni at beginning of Jan after just 1 semester - all my requests for confirmation of her attending school so I could get RESP funds released were met with scorn & obnoxious replies.

(Ex put info on social media site that D moved home - got a job - got a car - I was not informed by her or D of any of it.)

I sent ex papers to withdraw from FRO as was suggested by NBDad, she of course won't sign them - has decided I'm in arrears because I haven't sent money for school, forgetting that she & D have refused to give me any of their financial info since the start except the amount they say I have to pay and the fact D is not obligated to contribute despite her hefty trust fund.

Now ex says D is starting at local college in 3 months - I was never told of this till now - same as last time all plans are made without any consulting with me - just told to shut up & pay, anything else is none of my business.

She is playing it like I got all this info from her but she has sent nothing...... WTF. How are you supposed to deal with someone who is this crazy??

So now kind of pointless to stop CS but I'm paying again while D & Ex blatantly lie and collect CS when according to CO a terminating event has occurred - I already paid a full year while D did victory lap to take 1 or 2 classes, drink her face off, hang out with friends & ride her 2 horses (again all documented on social media), didn't want to rock the boat at the time as I was trying to reconcile with D. That all blew up when I dared to ask to be involved in school decisions.

So now I'm hoping the crazy train runs her over. If anyone has a more useful suggestion I'd appreciate it.

Cheers.

[DowntroddenDad]

Ask to see tuition reciepts? That won't help in the case where she quits, but it will confirm that she has enrolled in a new college.

[dad2bandm]

There are others who will hopefully chime in, on this, who have experience in this situation. My kids are still in grade school. :-)

But it sounds like you are not getting disclosure or needed information. To me, your ex simply stating "she will suddenly be starting school in 3 months", doesn't sound reliable to me, given the refusal to provide disclosure up to this point.

I think you should still motion for disclosure of current school status, and proof of the school status over the past few months (year?), as you want to know if your child support is being paid in accordance to your order, or not. That does not seem unreasonable to me. If they have proper info, they will provide it. If they don't, perhaps this would be used to "credit" some of your school expense?

I think it would be worth checking out. But as I said...others have more experience with the "post-secondary school" stuff, and "uncooperative" ex'es.

[teezy]

Did you happen to print off the stuff you saw on social media sites that indicated D was home and not in school anymore? Because you could present it as evidence when the ex refuses to disclose... if it specifically says she moved home.

[beenthere]

Teezy,

Yes I have "screen shots" of all of it so I know exactly when things were decided, but of course there is zero communication about it with me.

Don't really know if it will make much of a difference, ex has gotten away with this shit for almost 18 yrs so she's pretty confidant she can continue to jerk me around with no consequences.

Cheers.

[NBDad]

Proceed with a motion to end support and for the overpayment already paid out to be returned.

If/when the kid returns to school FULL time, offer to pay 1/3 the total, dependant on passing grades.

Cs should end, she went to post secondly, quit and now is allegedly going to go back again? No longer a child of the marriage and your ex has given you an established history of playing games.

File thee a motion skippy. Get er done.

[hadenough]

I've been wishing any train would do my ex in. *sigh*

[beenthere]

Proceed with a motion to end support and for the overpayment already paid out to be returned.

If/when the kid returns to school FULL time, offer to pay 1/3 the total, dependant on passing grades.

Cs should end, she went to post secondly, quit and now is allegedly going to go back again? No longer a child of the marriage and your ex has given you an established history of playing games.

File thee a motion skippy. Get er done.

Thanks NBDad,

Heading to local court on Friday hopefully to get paperwork going on Motion to Change. I hope I got it correct that I don't have to go back to original court 9 hours away.

Just searched through old threads where Old Lawyer mentions "Request to Admit" form to get other party to either admit or deny authenticity of facts & documents - wondering if I should use this to get all those screen shots in as proof to back up my request to end CS?

Does anyone know the difference between the Form 22 & Form 51A Request to Admit? Bloody confusing...

Cheers.