how much is required?

[HappyMomma]

Please, please, please advise!

My ex and I separated in March of 2009.

His lawyer is requesting the account numbers of all accounts I have had since Dec 2007 until present. Do I have to hand all of that over? I'm more than happy to provide everything up to, and possibly for 6 months or so after our separation but why do I have to provide more than that? We're separated for crying out loud!!

[murphyslaw]

Most likely your ex is saying that you were taking money from the family account and squirrelling it away.Hence why they want the account numbers.Next move they will do is get an order to get into the bank records after they have the account numbers.

[HappyMomma]

Most likely your ex is saying that you were taking money from the family account and squirrelling it away.Hence why they want the account numbers.Next move they will do is get an order to get into the bank records after they have the account numbers.

Well, yes, he thinks I've stolen money. Fine. But why would I have to provide him with account statements for 3 years AFTER WE SEPARATED? At one point to I get to live my life without him invading my privacy?

[arabian]

If you have nothing to hide why don't you just provide the information? On the other hand some lawyers can ask for things but it doesn't necessarily mean they are entitled to receive them. Have you been ordered to provide full financial disclosure at any point through the legal proceedings?

[murphyslaw]

He has no right for account details after separation, providing you didn't have access still to accounts in his name.What he is entitled to is your tax details which provide your income anyway.He wants that kind of detail let him go to the courts and demand it.

[HappyMomma]

If you have nothing to hide why don't you just provide the information? On the other hand some lawyers can ask for things but it doesn't necessarily mean they are entitled to receive them. Have you been ordered to provide full financial disclosure at any point through the legal proceedings?

Why? Because I've already spent hundreds of hours and dollars providing him with financial information to prove I haven't stolen any money. He is on a witch hunt. I have a new partner and a life - he is not part of it and I don't want him intruding on it. Enough already. How many hoops do I need to jump through to prove I haven't done anything? And all because he 'says so'. Not because his accusations are based on any fact or piece of evidence. It's ridiculous.

[arabian]

I gather you were ordered at some time to provide some sort of information. If you are confident that you have adhered to the conditions then it would be up to him to prove you are in contempt and seek court ordered remedies against you.

You are only obligated to provide information ordered by the court. No more. I'd disregard any further correspondence from his lawyer in this matter. Sounds like they are on a fishing expedition.

[HappyMomma]

I gather you were ordered at some time to provide some sort of information. If you are confident that you have adhered to the conditions then it would be up to him to prove you are in contempt and seek court ordered remedies against you.

You are only obligated to provide information ordered by the court. No more. I'd disregard any further correspondence from his lawyer in this matter. Sounds like they are on a fishing expedition.

I have never been ordered, no. I've given him all the information he's ever requested and MUCH, MUCH more. In the past he has claimed that I have not provided him with information, but when asked he won't provide a list of what he wants or what he feels is 'missing'. Very frustrating. His lawyer has finally provided a list and it includes documentation of financial information for the 3 years since our separation. I don't feel I should have to provide any financial information (except taxes and form 13 info) from after our separation. Why would I hand over my bank/credit card statements to him? It's none of his business what I spend my money on. Such an intrusion!!

[arabian]

You tell the lawyer to go blow it out his arse. Tell him you'll report him to the bar for harassment.

If he wants info make them jump through the hoops to get it.

[HappyMomma]

You tell the lawyer to go blow it out his arse. Tell him you'll report him to the bar for harassment.

If he wants info make them jump through the hoops to get it.

I go in for questioning tomorrow. Should be a fun filled afternoon of accusations with no basis. One step closer to resolution though.

[OrleansLawyer]

Tell him you'll report him to the bar for harassment.

This would be a poor strategy.

Most lawyers are "type A" personalities. If you decide to make it personal by reporting them frivolously then two things will be accomplished.

1. They will have less worry about future threats for same, deserved or not, since you will either have cried wolf (by not reporting) or hurt your credibility with LSUC (by reporting frivolously). Most lawyers - good and bad - end up with a few reports filed against them on a regular basis due to clients disliking a bill or opposing parties being ornery.

2. While posing no professional threat, frivolous reports can waste time (usually an assistant's). Whether for this reason or due to taking it personally, some lawyers respond by becoming more aggressive on account of the "type A" personalities dominant in the profession.

Notwithstanding the above, if a lawyer is breaking the rules of professional conduct, you should report them to the LSUC. Using an empty threat to report, however, is going to be ignored at best and result in your discomfort (and a discount to your ex) at worst.