I was married for eleven years. I was a SAHM, while he makes $90,000. At our settlement conference, he offered me $150 a month is spousal. We asked for $750. He refused. We ended up going to court on a motion. The judge ordered he pay $1222 in child support (he was giving me $1150), and $1200 in spousal. Suddenly, he comes forward with a doctor's note, saying due to a medical condition (arthritis), he can only work two days a week. He says he wants an immediate reduction to $0 in spousal and just over $500 a month in child support. He shows no proof that he's actually working two days a week, other than one direct deposit slip, but no actual pay stub.
My lawyer puts it in the order, that he has 60 days for me to perform "due diligence" to make sure he is only working the reduced days as he claims. This included a medical package asking for consent to speak to his doctors directly, a letter from his employer stating which aspects of his job he can't complete due to his condition (he does not do manual labour), letter from the insurance company stating they won't give him subsidy as he claims, original pay stubs, etc. Only after he provides that information, will we allow a reduction in support.
Well, the entire time he had those 60 days, he still did not pay me one nickel in spousal. The order was made in February, the 60 days was given in April and he has not paid spousal even for one month since the original order. In the meantime, the 60 days has come and gone, he did not provide even one piece of the information provided, including something as simple as a pay stub, and still no spousal support. Now with FRO terminating deductions, I'm not even getting child support. My lawyer gave him a further 60 days to provide me with the information asked for, though I don't know why.
The order says that only AFTER he gives the medical info, will we reduce the support. I am getting nothing. Can this not be enforced? If he was making as little as he claims, he wouldn't even be able to pay his rent. As of now, he's taking my kids to movies, the zoo, out to dinner all the time, buying them expensive toys and video games. Meanwhile, I can't even send them to camp this summer or buy them shoes. I don't know how to go about getting my support. Is this not contempt of a court order?
My lawyer puts it in the order, that he has 60 days for me to perform "due diligence" to make sure he is only working the reduced days as he claims. This included a medical package asking for consent to speak to his doctors directly, a letter from his employer stating which aspects of his job he can't complete due to his condition (he does not do manual labour), letter from the insurance company stating they won't give him subsidy as he claims, original pay stubs, etc. Only after he provides that information, will we allow a reduction in support.
Well, the entire time he had those 60 days, he still did not pay me one nickel in spousal. The order was made in February, the 60 days was given in April and he has not paid spousal even for one month since the original order. In the meantime, the 60 days has come and gone, he did not provide even one piece of the information provided, including something as simple as a pay stub, and still no spousal support. Now with FRO terminating deductions, I'm not even getting child support. My lawyer gave him a further 60 days to provide me with the information asked for, though I don't know why.
The order says that only AFTER he gives the medical info, will we reduce the support. I am getting nothing. Can this not be enforced? If he was making as little as he claims, he wouldn't even be able to pay his rent. As of now, he's taking my kids to movies, the zoo, out to dinner all the time, buying them expensive toys and video games. Meanwhile, I can't even send them to camp this summer or buy them shoes. I don't know how to go about getting my support. Is this not contempt of a court order?
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