Hi All,
I hope I can get some expert advice from those of you that have cone through what I am going through right now. The last time I posted was around 2010 when I was first going into my common-law relationship but now 5.5 years later it has come back to bite me. I know, am too trusting.
I met my partner through an on-line dating site a year after I was widowed after 37 years of marriage, no children, both of us working hard for over 40 years to get what I now own.
When I met my partner it only took him 3 months to move into my house. Should of been a red flag when he said he did not want a prenup.
About 2 years after we lived together and I was let go from my job I finally got to see his true self, he was a gamer and was on the computer from morning to night time. I occupied myself the best I could but finally it started to catch up with me.
I own the house and all the additions, repairs etc were paid by me. He is not very handy so the only thing that he contributed was $300 a month towards food, laundry and upgrading the cable to the movie network. He also cut the grass and hedge and we shared the snow shovelling duties.
I was one of the people that got a flooded basement on July 8th so things have been a little hectic and we had a few arguments. His personality is very passionate and I keep things to myself and am a peacemaker. What made me finally decide that this relationship should be over when he said to me, if you want me out of here just say so. I made the mistake of answering without thinking and saying you know where the door is if you are not happy. He then said, then you are kicking me out, if yes, then I want my money for the flooded furniture I own in the basement and $50,000. The house has gone up at least $100,000 since I have lived here and if I wanted to I could go for half of the house.
I was pretty shaken that he said that and replied, when we met you told me that you were after my heart and not my money, it sure does not look like you were very honest. He replied, you are a liar, when we met you promised me that you would sell the house and we would move out of Toronto. I said, I was inflatuated with you and did not say outright, I said I would think about it. I do not drive all my friends and family live here. He also said, you begged me to come and live with you.
Anyway, sorry for being so longwinded. I have contacted the Law Society Referral Service, they have given me a reference number and I have been given a name of a family lawyer in my area. I am awaiting her call for a half hour consultation and if need be will pay for any additonal time beyond that.
I would really appreciate your input. As a side note, his children told me to kick their dad out as they know how he treated their mom.
I hope I can get some expert advice from those of you that have cone through what I am going through right now. The last time I posted was around 2010 when I was first going into my common-law relationship but now 5.5 years later it has come back to bite me. I know, am too trusting.
I met my partner through an on-line dating site a year after I was widowed after 37 years of marriage, no children, both of us working hard for over 40 years to get what I now own.
When I met my partner it only took him 3 months to move into my house. Should of been a red flag when he said he did not want a prenup.
About 2 years after we lived together and I was let go from my job I finally got to see his true self, he was a gamer and was on the computer from morning to night time. I occupied myself the best I could but finally it started to catch up with me.
I own the house and all the additions, repairs etc were paid by me. He is not very handy so the only thing that he contributed was $300 a month towards food, laundry and upgrading the cable to the movie network. He also cut the grass and hedge and we shared the snow shovelling duties.
I was one of the people that got a flooded basement on July 8th so things have been a little hectic and we had a few arguments. His personality is very passionate and I keep things to myself and am a peacemaker. What made me finally decide that this relationship should be over when he said to me, if you want me out of here just say so. I made the mistake of answering without thinking and saying you know where the door is if you are not happy. He then said, then you are kicking me out, if yes, then I want my money for the flooded furniture I own in the basement and $50,000. The house has gone up at least $100,000 since I have lived here and if I wanted to I could go for half of the house.
I was pretty shaken that he said that and replied, when we met you told me that you were after my heart and not my money, it sure does not look like you were very honest. He replied, you are a liar, when we met you promised me that you would sell the house and we would move out of Toronto. I said, I was inflatuated with you and did not say outright, I said I would think about it. I do not drive all my friends and family live here. He also said, you begged me to come and live with you.
Anyway, sorry for being so longwinded. I have contacted the Law Society Referral Service, they have given me a reference number and I have been given a name of a family lawyer in my area. I am awaiting her call for a half hour consultation and if need be will pay for any additonal time beyond that.
I would really appreciate your input. As a side note, his children told me to kick their dad out as they know how he treated their mom.
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