Hello.
I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years, 8 or so living together, which makes us common law.
We own a townhouse together, completed paid off and we've actually made 50:50 payments.
We also own an Accord, nearly paid off. Also 50:50 in terms of our contribution.
We have no children together.
Our relationship has deteriorated over the past 3 years to the point that she'll trap me for arguments: when I'm in the bath, when I'm sick, right after laser eye surgery when I was imobile on the bed, and at midnight when I desperately need sleep (very often). Her arguments go on for 2, 3, even 4 hours and are mostly (90% to 95%) her speaking and yelling. She's even introduced named calling and bad words. It's very unpleasant. Most of what I say is "Please let me sleep", or "please leave me alone for a while." I go to other rooms for peace and quiet and she follows me. When her arguing doesn't have the desired effect, she sometimes begins kicking things (bedboard, bedpost) or breaking things (lamp, bending my car's antenna (my 11 year old car). She's even repeatedly thumped her head into the wall and window (very weird) which usually follows by her shaking and speaking giberish at which point I have to console her before she does something bad to herself.
I began falling out of love 3 years ago. We tried counselling until she decided to stop going. I continued for solo sessions.
I do not look forward to going home most nights and find activities to enjoy. I wind up building up my spirit during the week and get trapped on the weekend by her persistant verbal assaults and become often depressed by Monday.
I've asked her to break up. She refuses and tells me to get a lawyer. Because this is common law, are we only subject to share what we bought together? What kind of lawyers costs am I looking at and would she have to share?
Thanks to anyone who can help.
I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years, 8 or so living together, which makes us common law.
We own a townhouse together, completed paid off and we've actually made 50:50 payments.
We also own an Accord, nearly paid off. Also 50:50 in terms of our contribution.
We have no children together.
Our relationship has deteriorated over the past 3 years to the point that she'll trap me for arguments: when I'm in the bath, when I'm sick, right after laser eye surgery when I was imobile on the bed, and at midnight when I desperately need sleep (very often). Her arguments go on for 2, 3, even 4 hours and are mostly (90% to 95%) her speaking and yelling. She's even introduced named calling and bad words. It's very unpleasant. Most of what I say is "Please let me sleep", or "please leave me alone for a while." I go to other rooms for peace and quiet and she follows me. When her arguing doesn't have the desired effect, she sometimes begins kicking things (bedboard, bedpost) or breaking things (lamp, bending my car's antenna (my 11 year old car). She's even repeatedly thumped her head into the wall and window (very weird) which usually follows by her shaking and speaking giberish at which point I have to console her before she does something bad to herself.
I began falling out of love 3 years ago. We tried counselling until she decided to stop going. I continued for solo sessions.
I do not look forward to going home most nights and find activities to enjoy. I wind up building up my spirit during the week and get trapped on the weekend by her persistant verbal assaults and become often depressed by Monday.
I've asked her to break up. She refuses and tells me to get a lawyer. Because this is common law, are we only subject to share what we bought together? What kind of lawyers costs am I looking at and would she have to share?
Thanks to anyone who can help.
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