Hi
I am in the process of re-negociating our separation agreement and would like some input from anyone of experience...
The original agreement was to share expenses 50-50 except for:
I buy the kids clothing (3 kids)
He buys the school supplies
I get child tax benefit
He pays the table amount of child support (offset amount)
I turned down spousal support
We shared the contents of the house and he payed me my share of the house (we both agreed on this no problems)
This agreement was working fine until he decided he wanted to change the amount of child support or get the child tax benefit. As per the CRA he was entitled to CCTB so applied and got it. Now I wanted to share expenses for the kids clothes, activities and special expenses in proportion to our salaries. He refused and told me I would have to bring him to court... We originally went to court but were told to go to Mediation which we tried and it did not work as he is verbally abusive and I couldn't say anything at Mediation...
If I could afford to keep going this way (keep the present agreement)
I would to save the time and energy but the problem is that I cannot offer the children the same standards of living he can. He makes over 20 000$ more than I a year and also has his mom living with him and helping with his costs.
My Lawyer and I are filing the court documents and I just want to make sure that I get a fair agreement in the end. I don't want endless court procedures, just what the kids and I to get what were entitled to and nothing more.
Originally I never even thought about Pension, RRSP etc... I was told I should ask for my share as I was technically paying into it (RRSP & Pension) during our relationship...
This is all so confusing and I feel like one of those crazy ex-wifes who want revenge...
How can I find a good example of a fair separation agreement?
Thanks
I am in the process of re-negociating our separation agreement and would like some input from anyone of experience...
The original agreement was to share expenses 50-50 except for:
I buy the kids clothing (3 kids)
He buys the school supplies
I get child tax benefit
He pays the table amount of child support (offset amount)
I turned down spousal support
We shared the contents of the house and he payed me my share of the house (we both agreed on this no problems)
This agreement was working fine until he decided he wanted to change the amount of child support or get the child tax benefit. As per the CRA he was entitled to CCTB so applied and got it. Now I wanted to share expenses for the kids clothes, activities and special expenses in proportion to our salaries. He refused and told me I would have to bring him to court... We originally went to court but were told to go to Mediation which we tried and it did not work as he is verbally abusive and I couldn't say anything at Mediation...
If I could afford to keep going this way (keep the present agreement)
I would to save the time and energy but the problem is that I cannot offer the children the same standards of living he can. He makes over 20 000$ more than I a year and also has his mom living with him and helping with his costs.
My Lawyer and I are filing the court documents and I just want to make sure that I get a fair agreement in the end. I don't want endless court procedures, just what the kids and I to get what were entitled to and nothing more.
Originally I never even thought about Pension, RRSP etc... I was told I should ask for my share as I was technically paying into it (RRSP & Pension) during our relationship...
This is all so confusing and I feel like one of those crazy ex-wifes who want revenge...
How can I find a good example of a fair separation agreement?
Thanks
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