I'm seeking a non-removal order. It's actually even more important to me than sole custody. I have very valid reasons for believing that if my ex was granted permission to take our kids overseas to visit his family, that he would not return with them. While the countries he would want to visit are part of the Hague, they can only enforce it if they can find him. He has duel citizenship, and has hundreds of relatives who would not think twice about helping him. He speaks the language, he has job connections, family, the ability to work in any European country. Aside from our kids, he has nothing keeping him here. I have had to listen to him moan about how moving to Canada was the biggest mistake he ever made, how Canada is so far behind in social issues, education, etc.
He never showed real interest in taking them there during the entire time we were married, other than a passing "It would be nice if we could go back to visit one day". Within weeks of me telling him I was done with our marriage, he demanded the kids' birth certificates and told me he was taking them back to his country in a few weeks, because his mother had six months to live (this was a year and a half ago).
My feeling is, it will not hurt or damage the children if they don't visit his homeland until they are teenagers (if they wish to go). They don't know his family, his family has never taken an interest in them, his "dying mother" has never acknowledged their existence (nor my ex's for over 20 years), and they don't even speak the language. No harm or risk will come to them by NOT going overseas until they are older. If his family wants to see and speak to them, Skype works perfectly well, and planes fly both ways.
Has anyone ever been successful in getting a non-removal order? If I am granted one, I will feel about 99% better about the kids being with him on extended visits. Last night when I called them to tell them to have fun camping this week, I found that his home number had been disconnected and he never told me. My first thought, was that he cancelled it because he knows he won't be needing it. It's a terrible feeling.
He never showed real interest in taking them there during the entire time we were married, other than a passing "It would be nice if we could go back to visit one day". Within weeks of me telling him I was done with our marriage, he demanded the kids' birth certificates and told me he was taking them back to his country in a few weeks, because his mother had six months to live (this was a year and a half ago).
My feeling is, it will not hurt or damage the children if they don't visit his homeland until they are teenagers (if they wish to go). They don't know his family, his family has never taken an interest in them, his "dying mother" has never acknowledged their existence (nor my ex's for over 20 years), and they don't even speak the language. No harm or risk will come to them by NOT going overseas until they are older. If his family wants to see and speak to them, Skype works perfectly well, and planes fly both ways.
Has anyone ever been successful in getting a non-removal order? If I am granted one, I will feel about 99% better about the kids being with him on extended visits. Last night when I called them to tell them to have fun camping this week, I found that his home number had been disconnected and he never told me. My first thought, was that he cancelled it because he knows he won't be needing it. It's a terrible feeling.
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