Child support question regarding scamming ex

[Fedupwife]

I've been on this forum before helping out my husband but n ow I have questions of my own.

My ex hasn't been working since Nov claiming he has a work injury. I don't believe him. He claims his shoulder hurts but I've seen him pulling the cord for his skidoo multiple times. He tells me he is getting jerked around with his pay cheque. And makes me feel guilty that he doesn't have any money for bills?

How is this my fault? We have two children. He asks me what I use my CS for and I told him half my car loan? DO I have to tell him this information? Is using my cs for half my loan unacceptable? If I didn't have a car how the hell would I get around? I divorced him because he is a liar and scammer and steals. I don't know what to do.

Thanks.

[Rioe]

Don't let him make you feel guilty. You're not the one who hurt his shoulder, or messed up his pay cheques. You're just the one looking after his children, who should be his most important bill.

And you don't need to tell him what you use the CS for. It's money that comes in, and it helps pay for bills that go out. You aren't using it specifically for your car loan; you can't break it down that way. If that's what you told him, I can begin to understand why he is bitter. Tell him it goes to groceries, swimming lessons and kids clothes if it makes him feel better. It pays for the water they bathe in, the electricity they use watching TV, the pencils they do their homework with and the gas you use driving them to activities.

If you think he is lying to Disability about being unable to work, report him. If you think he is avoiding being employed so he pays you less, then take him to court and have a minimum income imputed to him. If you think he is lying to you about being unable to pay CS, take your court order to FRO and get them to take it from him and give it to you.

[Fedupwife]

Thanks for the help.

I do think he is lying. This isn't the first time he scammed. He was asking me why I needed child support today. I get it every two weeks. It's broken down into two payments. I told him my car payment and my daughters birthday. I shouldn't have to tell him why I need it. So frustrating.

[billm]

You don't have to explain how you spend CS.

His shoulder is no concern of yours, or if he is faking or not.

He should pay CS, adjusted yearly based on his income. So if he makes less money because he is injured, or he is faking injured, then it will all catch up with it - you can stay out of each other's business - just base CS on what he makes, adjusted yearly - no fighting, no questions, simple.

[Fedupwife]

Thanks very helpful.

I honestly don't care if he's faking or not. That's his problem. I just don't like him trying to make me feel guilty because he can't pay his bills. But that's my problem. (feeling guilty)

[Pharah]

What I think billm is saying above is that if the man is on disability, then he should be paying CS based on that new income. You can have his income imputed as Rioe suggested but I gather that he is still making more then minimum wage through his disability benefits?

If he takes you back to court, you will seem unreasonable and he will most likely get his payments reduced, especially if he has a doctor backing his injury.

[BitHunter]

Although on the other side if his current income is much less than what the CS was based on then it would be nice to adjust it.

It is hard to decide from behind the keyboard if he is faking his injury or not, but doing something for a few hours can be completely different strain on the shoulder than working 5 days a week and doing the same repetitive movement. My hand have no problem with carrying a heavy backpack and doing camping chores but sometimes hurts like hell moving the mouse around. (carpal tunnel syndrome)

[dadtotheend]

Requiring annual disclosure of his tax return and Notice of Assessment will go a long way to addressing your concerns about his income.