final order

[billiechic]

So my ex accepted my offer with few changes. Parallel Parenting, with medical to me, education to him. New schedule starts Monday. I will have her EVERY Wed and Thursday and alternate weekends. I'll be signing her up for the next swimming classes on Thursday nights. Think we covered everything and he was finally acting like her parent and not an ex.

Probably because he is now expecting a baby with his new girlfriend. So I asked if he wanted to marry her and he said yes. Obviously he said he would sign jointly for the divorce now, so that is all that's left to do. No CS due until we exchange tax info in June. I can't deny that learning that as a little stab in the heart. My daughter will have 3 stepbrothers.

They did ask to split the CCTB and UCCB. Can you split both? I told them (cause the lawyers didn't know ) that you only have to file a form in order to get the CCTB split. What about UCCB?

What a day. Emotionally draining and I think I'll see if a friend or two will go out for a drink. NOT to celebrate, but just to distract me. Today has been heart-wrenching.

[dadtotheend]

The UCCB entitlement flows from the CTB and filing the CTB application will generate entitlement to the UCCB as well. See point 5 here Shared Eligibility for more information.

He will have to submit the RC66 form for the CTB application and attach a copy of the court order when you get it so the child's living arrangements can be validated and the CRA will set you up under shared eligibility.

If you didn't know this already, the CRA is changing the six month rotation system for shared eligibility so each parent will now receive half of their monthly entitlement under the current system but it will be paid throughout the year as opposed to six months on and six months off. See Benefit entitlements in cases of shared custody for more information.

Better days ahead friend. Trust me. And congratulations for getting your ass out of court.

[BitHunter]

Behave like a parent not like an ex.
The fact that your ex is expecting a baby shouldn't hurt your feelings, he is the past, who cares what he has, and likely it will be an exciting experience for your child.
But I agree with the plan of going out with friends for emotional support.

[billiechic]

rszalai, I didn't say that hurt my feelings, I said it was a stab in the heart. especially when he followed the news with "If I had everything the way I wanted it, this new baby would have the same parents as our daughter".

I'm very happy that my daughter will have the sibling she wants, and that my ex will have the second child he always wanted. What hurts is that I wanted that second child too.

The realization that you are walking away from everything you thought your life would be, and accepting that is not going to happen is a painful thing. It was a miracle that he could tell me that, and admit that he was wrong, and that if he could go back in time we would have saved out marriage. Hearing that would break anyone's heart just a little. Seems it broke mine a lot. I've been waiting for those words for so long. They've just come too late, and that is tragic.

[BitHunter]

I see. Sorry to hear that.
No way back, but there is a road ahead.
Likely there are moment for all of us when we think that our marriage could have been saved, but it is likely not true, and in a year or two you would be divorced with 2 children.
I don't know your ex, maybe he said what he said just to hurt you, maybe he was honest. Doesn't matter why he said, that chapter is already closed.

[dadtotheend]

Behave like a parent not like an ex.
The fact that your ex is expecting a baby shouldn't hurt your feelings, he is the past, who cares what he has, and likely it will be an exciting experience for your child.
But I agree with the plan of going out with friends for emotional support.

Holy moly dude, don't be a robot. She's entitled to feel some pain, especially when he is having more kids and she isn't (yet). EDIT: Oops you beat me to it.

billie, don't forget the shit that went down leading to your break up in the first place. It's easy to remember the good times especially when he plays that "I wish we still together" card.

[billiechic]

billie, don't forget the shit that went down leading to your break up in the first place. It's easy to remember the good times especially when he plays that "I wish we still together" card.

Oh, don't I know it. I forgave him a long time ago, but I will never forget what happened, nor will I let it happen again.

I have to be proud of myself though. Some people walk through the rest of their lives after divorce seething with anger and resentment at their ex's and poisoning everything else that touches their lives. I know what I've been through, and I have every right to do that, but I choose not to. It was very hard to sit there with him today, and let him see the hurt he put me through, and for him to do the same. But if we are both going to make a good life for our daughter, it's the only thing to do.

So I went home, cried a little then got dressed up and went out for a drink with a coworker. And he cheered me up enough to get a smile out of me. Much better than sitting at home making voodoo dolls, huh?

[blinkandimgone]

I'm glad you're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel Billie. It's still a very emotional time, regardless of how the relationship ended and I'm so impressed with the way you're handling it!

[billiechic]

aww, shucks..