Greetings Friends,
I have been MIA for a while but wanted to share with you our latest story in hope that it will prevent you from losing hope during the difficult times you face when dealing with the many frustrations of family law.
I speak from experience. In a nutshell, my husband (together for 8 years) has a child from a sexual-encounter he had during his 1st year of college, two months before him and met and began dating. Over the past 8 years, we have experienced the birth of his son and the many obstacles that single fathers face in family law... especially (as we found out) when the father was never in a relationship with the mother of the child.
We faced many frustrating and stressful times. We spent countless hours in mediation and arbitration, we made several attempts at counselling, we experienced the headaches of self-representation, we spent thousands of dollars on countless lawyers, and we had the 'pleasure' of going to court at least once each year for the past 8 years. We have had our share of horrible experiences in front of biased judges... only to be dragged back to court over and over again because 'the golden uterus' always won and with each win, wanted more and more and more. Even when it meant demanding things that were against the word of the law.
We had lost all hope, many times over, but found it again at our last court date a few months back when we faced the most logical, reasonable, and fair judge we have ever met.
This judge was a God-send. He is very child-oriented and could see right through my stepson's mother. He scolded her for her behaviour (e.g., withholding visits unless we paid her -above and beyond obligated child support and section 7 expenses- to see the child; filing false police reports against my husband; making threats against me; filing false statements of arrears with FRO; etc.) and encouraged her to shape up and stop the games. He scolded her for dragging us to court over every penny and demanding things outside the word of the law, solely to her benefit. He reverted every issue back to the law - the way it is supposed to be and the way we want it to be - and applauded my husband and I for our efforts in trying to keep things civil and in accordance with family law. And the cherry on top: He made himself the only judge to manage our case... meaning, should we return to court, we will no longer have to face biased judges like we had in the past.
Ladies and gentlemen, there is hope at the end of the tunnel.
Since that court date, things have been great. There is no longer any stress in our life when it comes to my stepson and his mother's whims.
If this was possible for us... it is possible for you too. So please don't dispair. It may take a while (8 years for us) but eventually, your day of justice will come too.
Cheers!
I have been MIA for a while but wanted to share with you our latest story in hope that it will prevent you from losing hope during the difficult times you face when dealing with the many frustrations of family law.
I speak from experience. In a nutshell, my husband (together for 8 years) has a child from a sexual-encounter he had during his 1st year of college, two months before him and met and began dating. Over the past 8 years, we have experienced the birth of his son and the many obstacles that single fathers face in family law... especially (as we found out) when the father was never in a relationship with the mother of the child.
We faced many frustrating and stressful times. We spent countless hours in mediation and arbitration, we made several attempts at counselling, we experienced the headaches of self-representation, we spent thousands of dollars on countless lawyers, and we had the 'pleasure' of going to court at least once each year for the past 8 years. We have had our share of horrible experiences in front of biased judges... only to be dragged back to court over and over again because 'the golden uterus' always won and with each win, wanted more and more and more. Even when it meant demanding things that were against the word of the law.
We had lost all hope, many times over, but found it again at our last court date a few months back when we faced the most logical, reasonable, and fair judge we have ever met.
This judge was a God-send. He is very child-oriented and could see right through my stepson's mother. He scolded her for her behaviour (e.g., withholding visits unless we paid her -above and beyond obligated child support and section 7 expenses- to see the child; filing false police reports against my husband; making threats against me; filing false statements of arrears with FRO; etc.) and encouraged her to shape up and stop the games. He scolded her for dragging us to court over every penny and demanding things outside the word of the law, solely to her benefit. He reverted every issue back to the law - the way it is supposed to be and the way we want it to be - and applauded my husband and I for our efforts in trying to keep things civil and in accordance with family law. And the cherry on top: He made himself the only judge to manage our case... meaning, should we return to court, we will no longer have to face biased judges like we had in the past.
Ladies and gentlemen, there is hope at the end of the tunnel.
Since that court date, things have been great. There is no longer any stress in our life when it comes to my stepson and his mother's whims.
If this was possible for us... it is possible for you too. So please don't dispair. It may take a while (8 years for us) but eventually, your day of justice will come too.
Cheers!
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