First and foremost I have answered my own question about the daycare cost that is $9/day. I went ahead and not listen to the advices from the ignorant people who didn't take the time to read that it is $9 a day and most months are 22 days which would come out to $198 a month. I pressed the issue that she no longer pays and was granted full reimbursement from the time she has not paid. Now i no longer pay for something she doesn't pay for.
$9/day for daycare was part of section 7 not child support.
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It's what I do.Originally posted by tugofwar View Post
He's bordering on hopeless, but I stil have faith. When he stops talking about $9 and his (lack of?) anger, I'm all in.Leave a comment:
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Great post Billiechic!!!!Originally posted by billiechic View Post
This is a wonderful site you just have to take it with a grain of salt. We have all been there, for my first posts, I was badly bashed but truly everyone on here helped me get past the anger and hurt and focus on my child, not my ex. I re-read some of my 1st posts and think, wow I was a mess got punched and kicked and learned some valuable lessons.
If you think this forum is bad for bashing you, good luck with ex lawyer, courts etc because seriously if you can't take some criticizim from strangers, good luck hearing it from others that you know!!!
This site is a great tool to vent, gather and ask for information to help you along this process.Leave a comment:
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Constructive criticism is meant to be constructive (read: helpful). You have not taken it as such. You are not the first or last person to come on here and get a reality check. Those who get the most use of this forum got their own "slap in the face" when they first joined, but were able to look at the advice for what is was, and move forward.
If you aren't ready to listen to advice from people who have walked in your shoes, then it is no skin off my back. But if you are ready and willing to do what's best for your child, keep reading. You'll soon "get it".Leave a comment:
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Yeah, that's how I thought you'd take it. It's too bad because I certainly wasn't trying to put you down, just point out how you come across to everyone here.Leave a comment:
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Ondad, you know what! i'll just leave this forum, i really liked that this site is useful for others and by the sound of it, not really wanted here, i guess your all right..ha insults yes i got alot from you guys all i did was re-write and try explain more, by that is demeaning and insulting. not an angry person life is too short and face it a simple question turned into this mess!! sorry for asking question and trying to get hope...!!!
when i leave will these delete or do i have to remove them first.!!Leave a comment:
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So, please tell me if I'm getting what you're saying. You are willing to pay more for daycare as long as your Ex also has to pay more. Is that right?
While I applaud your principles, I think that you've lost sight of the fact that your focus should be on your child, not your Ex. I think that you'd live a healthier, happier life if you stopped worrying about your Ex and just focussed on being the best dad you can be.
On a personal note, you've been insulting and demeaning in just about every post you've made here. You also struggle to make your point and I'd be surprised if that hasn't been frustrating for everyone here. If this is the way you behave in the court system, I don't think it'll be long before you frustrate the people you're dealing with, including judges, which will only hurt your cause. I'm just mentioning this in the hopes that you'll take it for what it is, constructive criticism. Good luck with everything.Leave a comment:
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Lol...i cant stress more about the facts, it's not about the money..all i wanted to know is, what to do if someone ask for section 7 knowingly they dont pay for them, I have been paying since feb 1,08 and never had a problem, i even ask "why is it so low" because it is unusual to be that price and like i said, even when asked by the court to provide proof, still nothing for me or the courts but still made into a final order; Now i have the facts that states $9 was just pulled out of the air i guess just for monetary gain and not for daycare. the daycare rate $40.02/day so yes i would have to pay more, but its costs for my child's care.. but she pays $0 i guess i cant understand how your seeing this pointlessOriginally posted by blinkandimgone View PostLeave a comment:
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Methinks someone doesn't realize how lucky he is to get off paying as little as he pays for daycare. FYI Jaysneed - typical daycare costs START at $25/day for one child and you pay for everyday of the week regardless if your child is there or not.
It's crazy to think you're getting ripped off at $9/day!Leave a comment:
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Because that is how much daycare costs!! I don't qualify for a subsidy. I pay one week, her father pays the next. That is what responsible parents do.Originally posted by jaysneed View PostLeave a comment:
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IMO, you've proven time and time again that your attempts to discredit her are not working in your favour or to get you what you want. Perhaps it's time to try a different tactic in order to get a different result?
Perhaps focus on proving you are a good father, take some parenting classes, take the children to attend some family oriented activities and focus primarily on them. Let go of your frustration over the dollars and do what you have to do to get more access/ joint custody of the children. I think maybe you're losing sight of the big picture and what's really important here.
Instead of trying to make her look like a bad person, spend the energy proving you are a good person and a good father, then enjoy the rewards that come with that.Leave a comment:
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You keep stating i am angry! not at all but disappointed mainly, Money is not the issue here it is the principal. I can't prove that what she says about me to gain full custody, for instances me being abusive, but what I can prove is that she is a liar in other area's such as financial issues. I can prove that she is abusive in her own writing but all she does is claim that she never wrote it. She always says she has proof that I was abusive but never shows any at all since May 2007 to the Final Order on February 12 granting her full custody. And for what reason? She never did prove that I was an unfit parent, so why did such orders go about? Because of her lies. So to catch her on lies that I can't prove catch with the ones I can.
The director at her daycare wrote a letter for court stating how much she pays daycare, the daycare does not know how much she pays towards subsidy.I spoke to the Daycare's lawyer and he also informed me that the Director had no jurisdiction to write such letter because she does not know how much each parent pays.
She also got the Secretary at my daughter's piano lesson to write a third party harassment letter, but when I spoke with the President of the company he was never informed of such incident or letter. He also told me that she had no jurisdiction to even write such letters on behave of the company.
Should I just ignore those facts? Are those pity arguments?Leave a comment:
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