Can ask for trial over conferences

[littleman]

I can post the info you want providing you dont go on about it. If you are already in mediation ANYTHING THAT was even mentioned in Mediation is FORBIDDEN at trial. If issues are brought up in court that were mentioned in mediation your case could be potentially thrown out along with all claims against other person. I declined mediation for the exact reason. If you go to trial it is no more expensive than mediation. If your case is straight forward and you have ample proof then go for it. If not a solid case (I dont want details) consider your options.

[littleman]

I just declined mediation all together and it went straight to conference then trial right after. I had two appearances in court. But mine was solely for custody not my divorce. My divorce was amicable and done outside the courthouse. Simple divorce...we didnt fight over the little things...left the custody til later. Big bad world out there and if you dont grab it by the horns and enjoy it, it will grab you and pulll you down!!!!!!

[littleman]

you are confusing pertinent information. Without sounding harsh a spouse has no obligation to attend anything with you regardless of circumstance.
Stick to the facts of the divorce everything else is just mudding up the situation. You file for divorce for in Canada because you were married in Canada. Legally you CANNOT obtain 72 hour divorce from another country UNLESS you have been physically separated for minimal one year. The things you have noted that you are fighting for come down to he wants-she wants. The longer you fight with him the longer this will continue. Just go to trial and get it over with. However from what I have read from your posts and the many you have had I believe that you would NEVER be able to do this simply and give the children some peace. Honestly (Im not trying to sound mean) I believe that you are after the almighty dollar and ruining him. He may have done nasty things but that is the past and you have to get over it. Takes a bigger person to walk away and chalk this up to experience than it does to stand around and bicker about the last spoon in the drawer. You cannot say how he feels about anything in life, thats not your call for sure. You have mentioned in different places that you are seeking CS from him even though he is not bio father, leave it alone.
Have you had a conference yet? If so tell them you want this done & over with. If not and you have been separated for the year file for final divorce and forget the rest. Is money really worth all this that you claim you are going through. It seems that you are prolonging something that you could have had it done long ago. Get the stress lowered in your life and get on with living. Thats all you need to worry about and skip the petty stuff.

[littleman]

why wouldnt you file in Ontario.....were you married in Ontario then get divorced in Ontario dont confuse or complicate the issues. You say you were married here.....wheres here? Have you been physically separated for one calendar year?? Honestly why should he pay you support in either form of child or spousal......thats not an entitlement. I go back to a different post I had stating that you have no right to go after CS for a non bio child.....thats nasty and underhanded for sure. I have a name for women who do such a thing and its not very nice- seems they want every to pay-screw them all for what you can get away with.

[littleman]

I am really not interested in cases you have found that you assume are similar to yours. When you were married one of you had to surrender your citizenship.......who did that.......if you were married in USA then file for divorce in USA and find out how long you have to wait to file in absentia......if he refuses to sign or show up do it that way........dont complicate stuff.......you want quick divorce thats the way to go........absentia

[littleman]

It is called absentia here in Canada and I know first hand of this. My current can file for divorce in absentia whereas her where abouts is unknown. absentia means absent from......your US law really has no bearing here and is muddying all who read it. You cannot compare US family law to Canadian Family Law......

[littleman]

I never once said I relinquished any American citizenship........I asked if your ex did.........I am Canadian and proud to be one.......you seem to know all the answers and if this is the case then go to court ASAP and try to get what you want.........you seem to want to goudge your ex so I suggest with your "wealth" of knowledge on the way family courts work go and get a court date and get it over with........but Im sure a judge will see it the way I do that you are trying to screw him over and take any shred of dignity or life from him........you can self represent and I think that fromy our statements that would be best.......I was self represented and had my custody case over with in 8 months.......go for it........and save yourself money, time and heartache............get it over with