can I put this in a separation agreement?

[billiechic]

I need it to be very detailed, as he is manipulative.
-both parents give permission for child to attend counselling and support services
- child will not leave the country without written consent from both parents.
- Both parents must sign to obtain a Canadian Passport for child
- Neither parent will obtain a Portuguese passport for child.

-both parents will attend counselling and a parenting course or group.

I am worried that things could go downhill fast. I think both of us would have to sign for a Canadian passport, but I don't know if he can get her a Portuguese one without my signature. I just need it to be clear that he can't do that.

The counselling services need his written permission for her to attend counselling (as we have shared custody). I could have asked for sole legal custody, but I don't think he would let that go by. Don't think he would have a problem with counselling though.

Any ideas how I can word these better?
Any other suggestions?

[#1StepMom]

You can definitely put that in. We had asked for similar clauses to be put in my husband's court order.

Personally, I think short and straight to the point wording is best - leaves no room for misinterpretation. :-)

[billiechic]

thanks. I've been working on it all day since he wants it tomorrow if possible. The sooner, the better, as he needs it to purchase my half of the home.

[Edward]

Don't forget to put that the parents are not allowed to take the child out of the city with intent to move, before filing a motion in the court 60 days prior.

I heard if that is not specified, then 1 parent can easily move and therefore has an advantage when it comes to the battle

[billiechic]

right, thanks Edward

I am putting that we cannot move X number of kms away without written consent from the other, as I am intending to move in August/September 2010.