Any suggestions? I want to bury the chances of losing my ground.
Start of 2004...Separated, separate dwellings, week-abouts with children.
End of 2004.....I have weeks, mother has every other weekend only
mother moves out of town 40 minutes away.
Mid 2005.........Mother moves to another Province 1900Km away. Bankrupt
after I gave her most of the money from matrimonial home.
Amended Sep Agreement to show me Prim Custod Parent
Mid 2006.........I and the children transfer with job 3 hours away, set up
shop with rental house, school, clubs, medical etc.Life is
good.
End 2006.........Mother returns to Province but is 3.5 hours away with BF.
Periodically lend her the rental house and let her be wknd
Mom. No money ever exchanged, no Child Support from her.
Mid 2009..........Me and children move(final posting),new job, new house
purchase, new school. clubs, doctor, friends, etc. Now
mother is 7 hrs away. When she comes up, I toss her the
keys and I vacate for weekend. I never bad mouth her to
kids. Ex is an alcoholic, recovering. No I will never take her
back, Nor does she want to. Appears that she wants me
to raise kids. And that's what I am doing.
We are Divorced. Only have Divorce Order. All other matters have been settled "out of Court". We went to court back in early 2004 but she threw in towel after Lawyer cleaned out her RRSP. I did not use a Lawyer.
My adhoc Paralegeal says don't worry about seeking some sort of Custody Order. It will just stir up old feelings and trigger another battle.
If I was to seek an Order, how would I proceed? Do I have a rock solid "Status Quo"? I detest the court. Lawyers......don't even start...
Reading some of the accounts here I am stricken with horric memories.
I think I even blanked some out. I can't remeber all of the details. I went to court 5 times. Self Rep with an unofficial advisor. I was a man on a mission. I could talk all night about this.
To all of you men........this is your finest hour, breathe deep and grow a pair...your children need you.......you can handle it...Forget the Lawyer!
Sorry if I offended.........I am one lucky SOB!
Good Luck
Start of 2004...Separated, separate dwellings, week-abouts with children.
End of 2004.....I have weeks, mother has every other weekend only
mother moves out of town 40 minutes away.
Mid 2005.........Mother moves to another Province 1900Km away. Bankrupt
after I gave her most of the money from matrimonial home.
Amended Sep Agreement to show me Prim Custod Parent
Mid 2006.........I and the children transfer with job 3 hours away, set up
shop with rental house, school, clubs, medical etc.Life is
good.
End 2006.........Mother returns to Province but is 3.5 hours away with BF.
Periodically lend her the rental house and let her be wknd
Mom. No money ever exchanged, no Child Support from her.
Mid 2009..........Me and children move(final posting),new job, new house
purchase, new school. clubs, doctor, friends, etc. Now
mother is 7 hrs away. When she comes up, I toss her the
keys and I vacate for weekend. I never bad mouth her to
kids. Ex is an alcoholic, recovering. No I will never take her
back, Nor does she want to. Appears that she wants me
to raise kids. And that's what I am doing.
We are Divorced. Only have Divorce Order. All other matters have been settled "out of Court". We went to court back in early 2004 but she threw in towel after Lawyer cleaned out her RRSP. I did not use a Lawyer.
My adhoc Paralegeal says don't worry about seeking some sort of Custody Order. It will just stir up old feelings and trigger another battle.
If I was to seek an Order, how would I proceed? Do I have a rock solid "Status Quo"? I detest the court. Lawyers......don't even start...
Reading some of the accounts here I am stricken with horric memories.
I think I even blanked some out. I can't remeber all of the details. I went to court 5 times. Self Rep with an unofficial advisor. I was a man on a mission. I could talk all night about this.
To all of you men........this is your finest hour, breathe deep and grow a pair...your children need you.......you can handle it...Forget the Lawyer!
Sorry if I offended.........I am one lucky SOB!
Good Luck

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