Hi. Here are the highlights of our situation: I have lived with my CL partner, "J" since December. His ex wife left the matrimonial home (kids now 23, 28) seven years ago. They were married almost 30 yrs.
Until two months ago, J paid his ex's rent, vehicle insurance and loaned her money on a regular basis. No formal separation agreement. Over the years, she accessed money from his elderly parent's account without permission and used my partner's line of credit, etc to create a debt to him of approx $15,000. She refused to contribute to children's university or living expenses from the time she left up to this day. J pays for all of this.
Note: Ex worked for a short period of time and has been on disability for "depression"...she has no intentions of working. She also lived with a boyfriend for two years while J paid the rent and now lives with another who also lived rent free with her while J paid it.
At her request and of necessity, J listed and sold the mat. home. The closing date is Sept. 15. J and I have a conditional offer on a small home which will close the same date. The bank agreed to preauthorize his mortgage providing ex signs a notarized document stating she will not seek any further support or monies. She refused to do so.
Last night, she agreed to sign only a document stating she will not seek further support IF J gives her an additional $20,000 over and above the $200,000 she receives as her share of the house sale. (Sound like blackmail?) She clarified with the bank that if she doesn't sign the document, it means J will not receive mortgage. She is aware we still have to move Sept. 15 and we will have no where to go. The conditions of our purchase must be removed by this Tuesday.
Question: Is there anything else she can come after J for if he is able to pay her the additional $20,000?
Question: What are our options/your input?
Thank you.
The pressure is killing us.
Until two months ago, J paid his ex's rent, vehicle insurance and loaned her money on a regular basis. No formal separation agreement. Over the years, she accessed money from his elderly parent's account without permission and used my partner's line of credit, etc to create a debt to him of approx $15,000. She refused to contribute to children's university or living expenses from the time she left up to this day. J pays for all of this.
Note: Ex worked for a short period of time and has been on disability for "depression"...she has no intentions of working. She also lived with a boyfriend for two years while J paid the rent and now lives with another who also lived rent free with her while J paid it.
At her request and of necessity, J listed and sold the mat. home. The closing date is Sept. 15. J and I have a conditional offer on a small home which will close the same date. The bank agreed to preauthorize his mortgage providing ex signs a notarized document stating she will not seek any further support or monies. She refused to do so.
Last night, she agreed to sign only a document stating she will not seek further support IF J gives her an additional $20,000 over and above the $200,000 she receives as her share of the house sale. (Sound like blackmail?) She clarified with the bank that if she doesn't sign the document, it means J will not receive mortgage. She is aware we still have to move Sept. 15 and we will have no where to go. The conditions of our purchase must be removed by this Tuesday.
Question: Is there anything else she can come after J for if he is able to pay her the additional $20,000?
Question: What are our options/your input?
Thank you.
The pressure is killing us.
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