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    Hi all, so my daughter is expecting a baby in the new couple months. She was able to find the father of the child and they attempted a relationship for about a month. She has now broken up with him and is planning to focus on her school and the baby. She lives with us and as far as we know, that is her plan for the foreseeable future. She was back and forth for awhile, but she seems to want to stay in AB.

    She has her own space, bathroom, kitchen, bedroom (about 800sqft) and a stable living condition. He lives with his mother and has parole conditions preventing him from moving anywhere else at the moment.

    Neither of them have an income or any possible way to support themselves outside of income support and CCB when the baby is born. Hoping that will change once my daughter finishes school and enters the workforce, but that's not likely to be for 6 or more months after baby is born.

    I am wondering what custody and parenting time might look like for a newborn? And what factors might come into play?

    Also, I'm definitely not getting involved or trying to insert myself. I'm genuinely curious and wanting to give her realistic expectations as right now she is sick with anxiety and thinking he's going to force his way into the hospital room to take the baby and nobody can stop him. Clearly that's not the case, but she can't eat or sleep or even do a bit of research. She will usually listen to me and I want to be as upfront and honest with her as I can be.

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    For a newborn, short, frequent visits are typically recommended. Dad can come and visit the baby for an hour a day, for example, and extend the visits as the baby gets older and is awake for longer periods. Visits at your home are ideal until a custody arrangement is in place. Without one, there is nothing preventing either parent from returning the baby. They should try to get a parenting arrangement in place that grows with the child.

    This site has many great suggestions based on age:

    https://www.custodyxchange.com/locat...e-schedule.php

    As for the hospital, she doesnt have to tell him when she's going, or that she's there. When she goes for the tour at the hospital, she can ask the nurses how they handle it if she has concerns. She can just tell them when she gets there to have the baby that she doesn't want anyone to have any info or even to know she's there. They won't give any info by phone or if he shows up, and they have security at the hospital as well. She can focus on having the baby and inform him afterwards once she's back home, and let him know when he can come to see the baby.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by blinkandimgone View Post
      For a newborn, short, frequent visits are typically recommended.
      let's not use the word visit. Visit is for strangers -- not for fathers. Legally, they renamed access to parenting times. Let's get with the program and refer to them as parenting times.


      Originally posted by blinkandimgone View Post
      Dad can come and visit the baby for an hour a day,.
      Condescending, controlling, manipulative.

      An hour a day?

      An hour a day.

      One hour a day.

      one hour.

      More like, mother should facilitate father-child relationship. Mother can come and visit the baby for an hour every day and drop off milk on the weeks she is with father. One the weeks she is with mother, father could visit the baby for an hour every day. They could rotate week about. One week dad, one week mom. It will allow mom to better focus on her school.

      Mother's don't own children. They don't automatically get them. Let's stop with that bias and discrimination. We are in the year 2024 now. My hats off to that case I saw on canlii dad just kept the child until mom signed a 50/50 agreement. Mothers are always creating their own status quo, as to whatever suits their need. Father's are too easily folding and walking themselves into those arrangements. It is great to see dads starting to realize this and not be so afraid of the system that they have to do and go with whatever the mother dictates. One fucking hour a day. Okay, dad, your times up, get the fuck out.........

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      • #4
        Originally posted by accused_dad View Post
        let's not use the word visit. Visit is for strangers -- not for fathers. Legally, they renamed access to parenting times. Let's get with the program and refer to them as parenting times.



        Condescending, controlling, manipulative.

        An hour a day?

        An hour a day.

        One hour a day.

        one hour.

        More like, mother should facilitate father-child relationship. Mother can come and visit the baby for an hour every day and drop off milk on the weeks she is with father. One the weeks she is with mother, father could visit the baby for an hour every day. They could rotate week about. One week dad, one week mom. It will allow mom to better focus on her school.

        Mother's don't own children. They don't automatically get them. Let's stop with that bias and discrimination. We are in the year 2024 now. My hats off to that case I saw on canlii dad just kept the child until mom signed a 50/50 agreement. Mothers are always creating their own status quo, as to whatever suits their need. Father's are too easily folding and walking themselves into those arrangements. It is great to see dads starting to realize this and not be so afraid of the system that they have to do and go with whatever the mother dictates. One fucking hour a day. Okay, dad, your times up, get the fuck out.........
        Easy. I wouldn't get too excited about this father. He's on parole for god knows what. Blink's advice was based on a newborn who would not be separated from their mother. Not to mention mom could seek a supervised schedule.

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        • #5
          Yes, mother will be breastfeeding. She won't be able to be away from the baby for more than a couple hours at the very most. Her goal would be supervised visits for the first few months. Father has an upcoming trial for assault and is facing a possible sentence of up to 4 years (not against my daughter, this happened before she met him and is only now catching up with him).

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