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Until now, my ex and I have had an amicable split and for the most part have worked together on sorting out issues.
On Saturday and Sunday, she was here sorting though her stuff - the agreement was she was getting the things that were hers, I would sort mine and we would work through items belonging to both of us.
Our home has been sold and closing is coming up (June 1st). I live in the house with our 2 children and she does school drop offs and pickups with access to (my) car during the day.
I went to do paperwork this morning (got up at 4:30 am to do so) and found that all the files in a filing cabinet are gone - I do not know yet if they have been removed from the home or put into a box. My ex did not tell me she moved them.
My concerns are:
Some records do not belong to her - we have our taxation files in together by year, bank statements (from joint account), home records and also records from a company that I am 100% owner of -she has no interest in that company. Those records are gone too!
Is this stealing? My assumption is that I also have no right to remove -'joint documents' until we sort through them. If she wants a copy of them, that is different, however, I expect we should have discussed prior to their removal.
What about documents solely in my name - my medical and dental records, my taxation returns, my company documents? - she has no right to remove these at all? Should I call the Police, if she refuses to return them?
Vehicle ownership information is also gone and the vehicle is in my name - so that is also classified as theft?
I have no problem with her wanting to gain information for herself and these documents have been available. I would not have removed them to another location without her knowledge and don't expect she has that right.
We had discussed sorting through the documents a few weeks ago, but didn't do so at that point.
When I see her at 7:30 this morning, I am going to ask where the documents are - if she says she has them, I am going to ask her to go get them (she lives near by). If she refuses, I will inform her that I need to report them stolen as many are in my name only and represent loss of confidential and personal information.
On Saturday and Sunday, she was here sorting though her stuff - the agreement was she was getting the things that were hers, I would sort mine and we would work through items belonging to both of us.
Our home has been sold and closing is coming up (June 1st). I live in the house with our 2 children and she does school drop offs and pickups with access to (my) car during the day.
I went to do paperwork this morning (got up at 4:30 am to do so) and found that all the files in a filing cabinet are gone - I do not know yet if they have been removed from the home or put into a box. My ex did not tell me she moved them.
My concerns are:
Some records do not belong to her - we have our taxation files in together by year, bank statements (from joint account), home records and also records from a company that I am 100% owner of -she has no interest in that company. Those records are gone too!
Is this stealing? My assumption is that I also have no right to remove -'joint documents' until we sort through them. If she wants a copy of them, that is different, however, I expect we should have discussed prior to their removal.
What about documents solely in my name - my medical and dental records, my taxation returns, my company documents? - she has no right to remove these at all? Should I call the Police, if she refuses to return them?
Vehicle ownership information is also gone and the vehicle is in my name - so that is also classified as theft?
I have no problem with her wanting to gain information for herself and these documents have been available. I would not have removed them to another location without her knowledge and don't expect she has that right.
We had discussed sorting through the documents a few weeks ago, but didn't do so at that point.
When I see her at 7:30 this morning, I am going to ask where the documents are - if she says she has them, I am going to ask her to go get them (she lives near by). If she refuses, I will inform her that I need to report them stolen as many are in my name only and represent loss of confidential and personal information.
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