what can I do

[coffeeman690]

If my court order states that the mother must inform me if the child leaves her care and or drops out of school. Is it worth it to try and stop the FRO from taking my CS payments.
The child is now living W the Grandmother and is pregnant. Also the mother has moved in W her BF, in a different city.
Is this worth spending more lawyer fees to have the CS STOPPED!!! or can the grandmother go after me for CS????? Can I do this bymyself?
Also when does CS stop, in my order it does not state when If the child turns 18 does the FRO just stop taking my $$$ or do I need to apply to the courts for the stopped Payments????

Thks

[Kimberley]

Sorry to hear that things are not going so well on the family front. How old is your daughter?
Perhaps you can get your ex to agree in writing to have the CS going to the grandmother or your daughter in this case. Unfortunately considering her circumstances, she is going to need all the support she can get - emotionally as well as financially.
I would look into getting something agreed (if possible) between yourself and the ex which may include jointly agreeing with FRO about the payments so it goes to help your daughter rather than your ex who she isn't even living with.

Best of luck.

[Suchislife]

The FRO will not alter your CS based on your say so.
Their job is to enforce court orders.
If the mother is in agreement that CS should stop you can do it yourself with a consent form.
The costs will be the filing with the courts.
If the recipient is not in agreement you will have to proceed with a motion. The costs will vary depending on if you decide to represent yourself.
I doubt the Grandmother would have a case for 'going after you' for CS.
If your order does not stipulate an end to CS payments then yes, you need to apply to the courts to change the order.

[dadtotheend]

There's no way the mom should be continuing to collect CS for a child who llives in another city and who appears to have withdrawn from parental support. How old is the child?

I would be running to court to get that CS withdrawn. Whether the grandmother is entitled to CS is another matter.

[AtALoss]

I just posted "Living a nightmare" All please read. If you feel you have grounds to stop the support I suggest going ahead. My spouse was in the same position that his youngest was 19.5 and was pregnant(I add that was 5 yrs ago). He has gone thru jell and back but his story is an exception. First thing you need to do is file a Motion to Vary.

[coffeeman690]

Also forgot to mention This is not my child and I dont think it's fair too me too pay when my order state's that she must inform me if she has left the home or school... so thats why I'm asking what I should do here. Is it worth the lawyer fee's to go back to court and try and get this dropped or can the grandmother go after me the child is 16 and I think I would only have to pay untill she is 18 anyways I'm I right?

[dadtotheend]

Hard to say whether it's worth it. You don't say how much the CS is, or the expected legal costs.

Self-represent.

[FL_Needs_To_Change]

I would self rep.
When dealing with issues surrounding CS it is generally very clear what the rules are.
I would submit a motion to vary CS based on the facts presented.
Attend your local court house and ask what steps are involved, and ask them what forms to start with, where when and how to file them.
Get a court date for the motion and ensure that you have all necessary documentation to support your claim for the judge to see.

I would think you could easily do this yourself