Hi all,
I have a bit of a complicated situation - I just want my separation to be finalized and move on, while doing what's best for my kids. Also want to keep as much $$$ away from the lawyers...
I proposed this settlement a month ago, no response from her lawyer. Her lawyer is demanding all of my paystubs from 2021 to date, despite my sworn attestation, 2 paystubs, and a letter from my employer regarding my salary. Basically deflecting the discussion to an irrelvant tangent.
My lawyer thinks that her lawyer is on an LAO certification and is just pushing for a trial so that he can bill the limited hours at a higher rate. Anything I can do? Right now I am paying all of my expenses plus CS while not receiving anything from her. I'm ok for the short term, but I can't bear the thought of this going on for years. Right now she is having everything so there is no incentive for her to move to resolution.
The real issue (I think) for her is that she can't accept Ontario's equalization laws - she wants all assets split in half despite the fact that I brought significant assets into the relationship. As in she is getting emotional about this and her lawyer isn't doing anything to educate her about how deductions work.
I'm sure there are more relevant details - I can add if needed.
I have a bit of a complicated situation - I just want my separation to be finalized and move on, while doing what's best for my kids. Also want to keep as much $$$ away from the lawyers...
- Started living together Oct 2007
- Separated Oct 2019, 2 kids
- Lived in the MH until May 2021
- MH is paid off, with a decent rental suite in the basement
- Ex lives in the MH, rents out the apartment suite
- I rent a house 5 minute walk away
- Ex works below her income potential, collects gov't benefits & CS
- I came up with an arragement that she stays in the MH for 5 years, CS offset against occupation rent so that there is no payment in either direction
- If she isn't amenable to the above arrangement, I want to sell the house and set up traditional CS/SS arrangement
- I have substantial assets from before we started living together
I proposed this settlement a month ago, no response from her lawyer. Her lawyer is demanding all of my paystubs from 2021 to date, despite my sworn attestation, 2 paystubs, and a letter from my employer regarding my salary. Basically deflecting the discussion to an irrelvant tangent.
My lawyer thinks that her lawyer is on an LAO certification and is just pushing for a trial so that he can bill the limited hours at a higher rate. Anything I can do? Right now I am paying all of my expenses plus CS while not receiving anything from her. I'm ok for the short term, but I can't bear the thought of this going on for years. Right now she is having everything so there is no incentive for her to move to resolution.
The real issue (I think) for her is that she can't accept Ontario's equalization laws - she wants all assets split in half despite the fact that I brought significant assets into the relationship. As in she is getting emotional about this and her lawyer isn't doing anything to educate her about how deductions work.
I'm sure there are more relevant details - I can add if needed.
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