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    Hi everyone,

    Just completed the second round of custody evaluation. First round was completed the week the world shutdown last year and a judge granted me leave to seek an updated one ahead of trial in May of this year, based on the fact that too much time has passed, and many things have transpired over the year, including criminal charges for my ex, breaches of conditions, emotional stress on my children, etc.
    The report turned out largely in my favour as the children have been subjected to a lot over the last year and they spoke up about it (feeling pressured, badmouthing of mom, being lied to, etc).
    One child is adamant about not increasing time at dadís house. The other child leans to a schedule that allows a minimal amount of extra time for dad, but suggests that they are unsure about it and recounts many situations in which theyíve been pressured by dad and donít want to be subjected to the negativity when at dadís.
    In cases where the children donít explicitly agree (although the one child is not very firm in their wishes), is a judge going to want to settle on one schedule for both children? Would they gravitate to the child whose wishes are more firm? I know nobody has a crystal ball, but just wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation.
    I should mention that my children are teenagers (13,15).


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    I have no helpful information on this request but Iím glad your kids were able to speak freely and express their concerns. Especially if your ex is going to claim he deserves more time. Plus your kids are much older than they were back during the last go round. Fingers crossed that this assessment goes far with a judge and the crap with your ex either stops or gets shut down further. The problem with him is he has that ego and lack of responsibility.


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      The day after the VOC came out they asked for an adjournment. They need more time to deal with his criminal matters. Unfortunately this just drags the matter out further. Looks like September now if he dares to pursue this to court when one child is adamant about not increasing his time.


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      • #4
        Originally posted by Ange71727 View Post
        The day after the VOC came out they asked for an adjournment. They need more time to deal with his criminal matters. Unfortunately this just drags the matter out further. Looks like September now if he dares to pursue this to court when one child is adamant about not increasing his time.


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        Hey Ange71727,

        Iím in a similar predicament right now. Iím curious why the OCL would be ordered over a VOC in a case? My kids with similar ages had the OCL ordered instead of a VOC.


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        • #5
          Originally posted by vocalfather View Post
          Hey Ange71727,

          Iím in a similar predicament right now. Iím curious why the OCL would be ordered over a VOC in a case? My kids with similar ages had the OCL ordered instead of a VOC.


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          Iím not sure. I was told that OCL would take longer and may not take on every case. The VOC was through a private assessor so we paid for it ourselves. OCL will assess the same things but itís just publicly funded, I believe. How long has the process been for you?


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