Temporary change of location for pickup.

[Berner_Faith]

How far is aunts house from your house? Go for dinner and take the kids back to your place for pick up... honestly you are both creating unnecessary drama... him for not wanting to pick up at aunts and you for just not driving back home... you’re in court now, dad could easily request you both be responsible for pick up and then you would be the one traveling 45 min as well as him. That’s the best way to do it. I would also have set locations spelled out since neither of you agree where pick ups should be


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[Mom 2 Two]

How far is aunts house from your house? Go for dinner and take the kids back to your place for pick up... honestly you are both creating unnecessary drama... him for not wanting to pick up at aunts and you for just not driving back home... you’re in court now, dad could easily request you both be responsible for pick up and then you would be the one traveling 45 min as well as him. That’s the best way to do it. I would also have set locations spelled out since neither of you agree where pick ups should be


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Dad moved away secretly without telling us in January. He tried to take the kids without giving me the address. So I’m not so sure a judge would make me deliver them when he decided to move away from our kids. But who knows I guess ? So he is the one that chose to move away and IMO for no good reason except because he wanted to. I know. None of my concern. But what is my concern is how it affects our kids. And he should of had that in his thoughts as well. He didn’t think about the affect on the travel for his young children or take into consideration their sports are where they live on the weekends. Pickup fri at 7 pm to drive 45 mins. Then back for 9 am sat and Sundays for hockey. How is that in their best interests. They have been enrolled in same hockey for the last three years.
So yes while I see what you mean that we are both being asses.... my sisters house is on his way home. Hence less of a car ride for our kids. He is just being a dick.

He picked them up here many times last summer and it was totally out of his way last year when he lived in the same town.

Her house is the same distance away that my house is from his work. So to go to my house he backtracking.

We will be heading home as the kids would rather leave early then risk dad not coming.




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[kate331]

you’re in court now, dad could easily request you both be responsible for pick up and then you would be the one traveling 45 min as well as him. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

At our last CC, my ex asked that we share the transportation for pick up/drop offs. The Judge said NO, its the non custodial parents job to do that. Made it easier for me so I didnt complain. But I found his stance rather harsh. Of course I am sure they make this decision on a case by case basis.

[arabian]

Your first post in this thread mentions that the initial communication you had with your ex was basically with his g/f.

When forced to deal with an ex through their current g/f/spouse it's a good idea to pause and reflect if this is indeed a reaction that your ex would make to an innocuous request such as yours. I've had to deal with faux ex (g/f) for many years. When I ended up actually speaking with my ex he often had no idea of current issue.

Keep this in mind.... your ex may have a very skewed impression of what actually transpired.

[Mom 2 Two]

Your first post in this thread mentions that the initial communication you had with your ex was basically with his g/f.

When forced to deal with an ex through their current g/f/spouse it's a good idea to pause and reflect if this is indeed a reaction that your ex would make to an innocuous request such as yours. I've had to deal with faux ex (g/f) for many years. When I ended up actually speaking with my ex he often had no idea of current issue.

Keep this in mind.... your ex may have a very skewed impression of what actually transpired.

I can guarantee he didn’t even know she responded to my request. And when I sent my response. The reply was instant. And I know he is working at that time and does not have access to his phone or email at the time his last demand came in.

I know deep down my ex husband does not want the fight we are having. We were married and remained friends for 3 years after. We got a long just fine and the kids loved that we still included the other in celebrations and important events. I do try to keep that in mind this is not how he would behave if not heavily influenced. But it is really hurtful that he has let some women take over his life and that he allows her to think and act for him. In his personal life where our kids are not involved fine. But when it comes to our kids he always looked to me and did up until the day he got serious with her. He gave me sole custody with no hesitation. I have done my best for our kids for the both of us.
I get it though. He will forever have his balls in her purse. And for that I will not forgive. And I just pray it doesn’t ruin his relationship with our boys. Boys need their dads. And I just want my boys to have the dad they had before.
Thanks for your input.


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[denbigh]

Generally, exchanges should be "drop off" rather than "pick up". I think that would avoid almost 90% of the issues we often hear about on this forum.

I thought the opposite was true. Children to be picked up rather than dropped off, as it gives a child centered view.