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Many of us are fighting for 50/50 parenting...
Kate331 has the opposite problem, she has trouble getting the father of her children to be a part of her their lives and in her words, wishes she had the problem of a father fighting for shared parenting.
I discussed it with her privately about what to share with her ex about why this is important and she suggested sharing it with the open forum..
So here goes Kate331
In the latest studies such as the 2015 Swedish study published in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, results from a sample of 150,000 suggested that children fare better when they spend time living with both of their parents. “Having two parents also tends to double the number of resources a kid is exposed to, including social circles, family and material goods like money. Only having access to half of that may make children more vulnerable or stressed than having it from both parents, even though they don’t live together”. “The more interesting finding was that students who lived with both of their separated parents reported significantly fewer problems than kids who lived with only one parent.” Time magazine article:http://time.com/3836627/divorced-parents-jointcustody/
According to the latest statistics by the department of health and services:
● Sixty-three percent of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
● Ninety percent of all homeless and runaway youths are from fatherless homes.
● Eighty-five percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders are from fatherless homes.
● Seventy-one percent of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes.
● Seventy percent of youths in State institutions are from fatherless homes.
Seventy-five percent of adolescent patients in substance abuse centers are from fatherless homes.
-truancy and poor academic performance (71 per cent of high school dropouts are fatherless; fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics, and thinking skills; children from father absent homes are more likely to play truant from school, more likely to be excluded from school, more likely to leave school at age 16, and less likely to attain academic and professional qualifications in adulthood)
-delinquency and youth crime, including violent crime (85 per cent of youth in prison have an absent father; fatherless children are more likely to offend and go to jail as adults)
-promiscuity and teen pregnancy (fatherless children are more likely to experience problems with sexual health, including a greater likelihood of having intercourse before the age of 16, foregoing contraception during first intercourse, becoming teenage parents, and contracting sexually transmitted infection; girls manifest an object hunger for males, and in experiencing the emotional loss of their fathers egocentrically as a rejection of them, become susceptible to exploitation by adult men)
-drug and alcohol abuse (fatherless children are more likely to smoke, drink alcohol, and abuse drugs in childhood and adulthood)
-homelessness (90 per cent of runaway children have an absent father)
-exploitation and abuse (fatherless children are at greater risk of suffering physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, being five times more likely to have experienced physical abuse and emotional maltreatment, with a one hundred times higher risk of fatal abuse; a recent study reported that preschoolers not living with both of their biological parents are 40 times more likely to be sexually abused)
-physical health problems (fatherless children report significantly more psychosomatic health symptoms and illness such as acute and chronic pain, asthma, headaches, and stomach aches)
-mental health disorders (father absent children are consistently overrepresented on a wide range of mental health problems, particularly anxiety, depression and suicide)
-life chances (as adults, fatherless children are more likely to experience unemployment, have low incomes, remain on social assistance, and experience homelessness)
-future relationships (father absent children tend to enter partnerships earlier, are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions, and are more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership)
-mortality (fatherless children are more likely to die as children, and live an average of four years less over the life span)
Given the fact that these and other social problems correlate more strongly with fatherlessness than with any other factor, surpassing race, social class and poverty
Kate331 has the opposite problem, she has trouble getting the father of her children to be a part of her their lives and in her words, wishes she had the problem of a father fighting for shared parenting.
I discussed it with her privately about what to share with her ex about why this is important and she suggested sharing it with the open forum..
So here goes Kate331
In the latest studies such as the 2015 Swedish study published in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, results from a sample of 150,000 suggested that children fare better when they spend time living with both of their parents. “Having two parents also tends to double the number of resources a kid is exposed to, including social circles, family and material goods like money. Only having access to half of that may make children more vulnerable or stressed than having it from both parents, even though they don’t live together”. “The more interesting finding was that students who lived with both of their separated parents reported significantly fewer problems than kids who lived with only one parent.” Time magazine article:http://time.com/3836627/divorced-parents-jointcustody/
According to the latest statistics by the department of health and services:
● Sixty-three percent of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
● Ninety percent of all homeless and runaway youths are from fatherless homes.
● Eighty-five percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders are from fatherless homes.
● Seventy-one percent of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes.
● Seventy percent of youths in State institutions are from fatherless homes.
Seventy-five percent of adolescent patients in substance abuse centers are from fatherless homes.
-truancy and poor academic performance (71 per cent of high school dropouts are fatherless; fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics, and thinking skills; children from father absent homes are more likely to play truant from school, more likely to be excluded from school, more likely to leave school at age 16, and less likely to attain academic and professional qualifications in adulthood)
-delinquency and youth crime, including violent crime (85 per cent of youth in prison have an absent father; fatherless children are more likely to offend and go to jail as adults)
-promiscuity and teen pregnancy (fatherless children are more likely to experience problems with sexual health, including a greater likelihood of having intercourse before the age of 16, foregoing contraception during first intercourse, becoming teenage parents, and contracting sexually transmitted infection; girls manifest an object hunger for males, and in experiencing the emotional loss of their fathers egocentrically as a rejection of them, become susceptible to exploitation by adult men)
-drug and alcohol abuse (fatherless children are more likely to smoke, drink alcohol, and abuse drugs in childhood and adulthood)
-homelessness (90 per cent of runaway children have an absent father)
-exploitation and abuse (fatherless children are at greater risk of suffering physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, being five times more likely to have experienced physical abuse and emotional maltreatment, with a one hundred times higher risk of fatal abuse; a recent study reported that preschoolers not living with both of their biological parents are 40 times more likely to be sexually abused)
-physical health problems (fatherless children report significantly more psychosomatic health symptoms and illness such as acute and chronic pain, asthma, headaches, and stomach aches)
-mental health disorders (father absent children are consistently overrepresented on a wide range of mental health problems, particularly anxiety, depression and suicide)
-life chances (as adults, fatherless children are more likely to experience unemployment, have low incomes, remain on social assistance, and experience homelessness)
-future relationships (father absent children tend to enter partnerships earlier, are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions, and are more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership)
-mortality (fatherless children are more likely to die as children, and live an average of four years less over the life span)
Given the fact that these and other social problems correlate more strongly with fatherlessness than with any other factor, surpassing race, social class and poverty
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