Hello everyone!
We (common law husband and myself) are presently attempting to resolve custody and support issues. When we initially filed an application for divorce it included joint with primary residence of the child with the ex, child support and set out a reasonable visitation schedule which is the same schedule they have been practising for the last 8 years. There is no previous order in place.
For reasons I don't understand she became very angry and her answer to our application included a request for sole custody, spousal support and a very limited visitation schedule which covered a month in the summer and 2 holidays and the rest to 'be granted with reasonable notice to the mother'...which given her recent behaviour will be little to none.
Our response is to be filed today. In the meantime she has been calling every other day screaming about one thing or another. Included in the weekly deposit of the child support is an additional 10 dollars for allowance for the child. We have found out recently that he hasn't been receiving this money. As a matter of fact she claimed on her sworn financial statement that *she* paid the allowance monthly. So to be sure we had decided to set up a savings account and put the allowance in there each week and when the child comes to visit he can have it to do with whatever he wishes. When we told him our idea he thought it was fantastic ( he was very excited to have his own bank account ). Well as soon as he told his mother she went ballistic screaming and yelling, which ended up in the Dad hanging up on the Mom.
She often threatens things like she will tell the child that we are punishing him if we don't do things the way she wants. Because of this we are thinking it might be a good idea to start recording these conversations. Assuming we do this does it carry much weight in court ( we would have the recordings transcribed for the court )? She stated in her answer that she would never do anything to interfer with access or visitation but thats all she has been doing!! We are logging these things as well, but I though perhaps recording them would lend some weight to show we are not exaggerating the levels of her interference.
Any thoughts or suggestions are welcome!
Jlalex
We (common law husband and myself) are presently attempting to resolve custody and support issues. When we initially filed an application for divorce it included joint with primary residence of the child with the ex, child support and set out a reasonable visitation schedule which is the same schedule they have been practising for the last 8 years. There is no previous order in place.
For reasons I don't understand she became very angry and her answer to our application included a request for sole custody, spousal support and a very limited visitation schedule which covered a month in the summer and 2 holidays and the rest to 'be granted with reasonable notice to the mother'...which given her recent behaviour will be little to none.
Our response is to be filed today. In the meantime she has been calling every other day screaming about one thing or another. Included in the weekly deposit of the child support is an additional 10 dollars for allowance for the child. We have found out recently that he hasn't been receiving this money. As a matter of fact she claimed on her sworn financial statement that *she* paid the allowance monthly. So to be sure we had decided to set up a savings account and put the allowance in there each week and when the child comes to visit he can have it to do with whatever he wishes. When we told him our idea he thought it was fantastic ( he was very excited to have his own bank account ). Well as soon as he told his mother she went ballistic screaming and yelling, which ended up in the Dad hanging up on the Mom.
She often threatens things like she will tell the child that we are punishing him if we don't do things the way she wants. Because of this we are thinking it might be a good idea to start recording these conversations. Assuming we do this does it carry much weight in court ( we would have the recordings transcribed for the court )? She stated in her answer that she would never do anything to interfer with access or visitation but thats all she has been doing!! We are logging these things as well, but I though perhaps recording them would lend some weight to show we are not exaggerating the levels of her interference.
Any thoughts or suggestions are welcome!
Jlalex
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