Sole Owner

[FB_]

It's official I am now the sole owner of my house.

I will be changing the locks this afternoon.

[Leviathan]

It's official I am now the sole owner of my house.

I will be changing the locks this afternoon.

you da man FB!!...congrats!!!

[Pursuinghappiness]

Yayyy...congratulations FB!!!!

I'm so happy for you. You can officially clean out the rest of the horde and make the house into a real home for you and your children!

You've been through a really stressful struggle and come out the other side even better than you went in....big huge congratulations!!!

[Exquizique]

Woohoo!! It's a big step forward!

[FB_]

you da man FB!!...congrats!!!

Thanks.......

[FB_]

Yayyy...congratulations FB!!!!

I'm so happy for you. You can officially clean out the rest of the horde and make the house into a real home for you and your children!

You've been through a really stressful struggle and come out the other side even better than you went in....big huge congratulations!!!

Thanks PH. It is still very overwhelming and could take a month to finish. I almost need to have a garage sale now to clear room for another pile.

The kids are adjusting very well. My daughter @ 4 1/2 was still in pull-ups and I have since managed to get her to go 12 out of 14 nights without an accident (no pull-up). My ex and I had agreed to transition her and I found out yesterday that she has not been doing it as it was too much work. sigh... I give her a snack size box of smarties every time she wakes up dry and make a really big deal out of it. She comes running to me every morning with a huge smile on her face.

Unfortunately it still does not feel real. I'm not sure how long that's going to take but getting the house cleaned will be a huge step in the right direction.

Thanks again, and again for all your support.

[FB_]

Woohoo!! It's a big step forward!

It is a big step. I still have many steps to go, many emotional and psychological which I'm sure will take a long time.

[Pursuinghappiness]

Thanks PH. It is still very overwhelming and could take a month to finish. I almost need to have a garage sale now to clear room for another pile.

I donated a ton of stuff before, during and still now after my move. I cannot tell you how much fun it is...and how liberating it is to just be able to downsize and clear out stuff you don't need or use. I'm one of those organizational freaks. I love things clean and pretty and in the right place. Its soooo awesome...enjoy it.

Then you can re-paint the rooms in the colors you choose and make a list of house projects you want to do. Once you get going on that stuff, you just get really joyful, feel free and it starts feeling more real.

The kids are adjusting very well. My daughter @ 4 1/2 was still in pull-ups and I have since managed to get her to go 12 out of 14 nights without an accident (no pull-up). My ex and I had agreed to transition her and I found out yesterday that she has not been doing it as it was too much work. sigh...

4 1/2 and in pull-ups is absolutely ridiculous....as I'm sure you well know. Just ignore what your ex does. She only needs to be trained at your house at bedtime and she'll get into a routine. Your ex is completely wrong in letting a child that age who doesn't have health reasons to still be using a pull-up at night.

It is a big step. I still have many steps to go, many emotional and psychological which I'm sure will take a long time.

Meh...I think you're fine already. Life is all about change. What you'll be dealing with is how to handle the negotiations with your ex which will NEVER go normally...as you already know. And you'll need to learn how to handle the fallout from that...it can be stressful. What I've done is learn to be more calm and just add it to my "glad I got away from that asshole" list. Its very nice to know that now when you have those incidents, you don't have the double displeasure to have to listen to or see your ex at the same time. Its funny. I used to have a lot more trouble letting go of things and I'd be mad for a lot longer.

Now, I find I have a flash of anger, then I shrug, add it to the list and I'm laughing 2 minutes later. Its a lot easier to let things go now...I have no reason to be unhappy about anything these days.

Now you get to date...and soon you can invite women over to your remodelled, clean house. Congrats again!!!

[DowntroddenDad]

It is a big step. I still have many steps to go, many emotional and psychological which I'm sure will take a long time.

Congrats!!

[frustratedwithex]

4 1/2 and in pull-ups is absolutely ridiculous....as I'm sure you well know. Just ignore what your ex does. She only needs to be trained at your house at bedtime and she'll get into a routine. Your ex is completely wrong in letting a child that age who doesn't have health reasons to still be using a pull-up at night.

Not ridiculous. Some kids do not have the bladder control at night to accomplish dry nights. This can go on for awhile, until a much older age. Doesn't mean they have any health issues. And a child should not be made to feel that something is wrong with them.

Clearly the ops daughter is capable of sleeping without the pull-ups, because she is successful at his house. Just saying it is not always ridiculous at 4 1/2.

[dad2bandm]

Some kids do not have the bladder control at night to accomplish dry nights. This can go on for awhile, until a much older age. Doesn't mean they have any health issues. And a child should not be made to feel that something is wrong with them.

Clearly the ops daughter is capable of sleeping without the pull-ups, because she is successful at his house. Just saying it is not always ridiculous at 4 1/2.

Agreed.

I just went through this (or am just ending) a similar "let's stay dry overnight...no accidents" thing, with our D4. The "pull-ups" overnight, lasted a little longer than I would have liked, but were still necessary, because D4 wasn't quite at the point, where she could last the night, without a wet bed.

I had the same situation (almost) as FB...in that ex was not working with D4 at all on this, and was not bothering with the pull-ups either (too expensive she said). We (D4 and I) had finally transitioned off the pull-ups (we called them "bedtime underwear", and she is now lasting most nights, throughout the night.

Congrats FB... enjoy!

[blinkandimgone]

Congrats FB!

[arabian]

great news!

[standing on the sidelines]

I remember when I became sole owner of my house. When I came home from work and saw his bed etc gone, I actually broke down and bawled like a baby. A little was saddness that it was over but a lot more was the relief of moving on with my life.