Ex hostile towards me in front of child...

[blinkandimgone]

Now THAT is an interesting idea, i like it

[NeverGreen]

I go through this a lot as well.

Almost every exchange, and theres no need for it. I say barely anything (Im recording but I get it all on tape, the put downs, the agression, the gaslighting...) all in front of the child..and her neighbors...and her parents.....as wel currently do the exchange in front of her parents house.

Sadly...because she doesnt drive the suggestion to do the exchanges elsewhere got stymied. The child is only 2 so theres almost no way to conduct "faceless" exchanges all the times. She doesnt want me bringing anyone to the exchanges.

But I do get so tired of the way she puts me down in front of the child....makes me wonder what she says and how she acts when Im not around.

[involveddad75]

Common locations are (in high conflict situations):

- *In* the McDonalds/etc.. in front of the service counter.
- *In* a crowded area like the food court of a mall.

Key point is that you shouldn't be exchanging the children in a parking lot with a high conflict ex. The stories that I have seen used about these locations is just scream out that they need to be done in front of cameras.

Anywhere there is full security surveillance is a fine place to go.

The highly conflicted often change their tune when they know they are being recorded.... Well, most of the time.

It also protects the false allegations. One might be accused of being high conflict, but it might also be that one parent is simply trying to create smoke.

In either case having camera's protect each other from the others behaviours, but the same can be said that they also protect from false allegations.
If a parent makes an allegation, you can simply ask the accuser to produce the camera evidence that proves the act. Otherwise withdraw it.

[involveddad75]

In a public library maybe - where there is an expectation that people will keep their voices down, and everyone can hear you?

Right that would, my D3 and D5 are quiet when they haven't seen me for a few days.

NOT!

LOL.

[involveddad75]

I go through this a lot as well.

Almost every exchange, and theres no need for it. I say barely anything (Im recording but I get it all on tape, the put downs, the agression, the gaslighting...) all in front of the child..and her neighbors...and her parents.....as wel currently do the exchange in front of her parents house.

Sadly...because she doesnt drive the suggestion to do the exchanges elsewhere got stymied. The child is only 2 so theres almost no way to conduct "faceless" exchanges all the times. She doesnt want me bringing anyone to the exchanges.

But I do get so tired of the way she puts me down in front of the child....makes me wonder what she says and how she acts when I'm not around.

Side note here, if your doing all the exchanges, document the mileage between homes, and then ask for a reduction in CS because transportation should be shared.

There is caselaw about this, not I can't think of it at the moment.

[Tayken]

Now THAT is an interesting idea, i like it

A public library is also a great place to post odd messages to this forum too. Public Libraries have so many uses in Family Law...

Good Luck!
Tayken

[blinkandimgone]

Lol! Nobody does that....really now?!?