advice pls

[Nadia]

1. Take a audio recorder with you and make sure you hit the record button as soon as you get into the hospital. Test it before you get there to make sure it is working etc.

2. Keep communication to what is absolutely necessary, i.e., the immediate needs of your daughter.

3. Do not discuss any other business. If she tries to talk about other stuff, just explain politely, that this is neither the appropriate time/place and that you need to be focused on your daughter.

[HappyDays]

Always keep your audio recorder going. That's the only thing you need to bring with you. Then let her lie about something and let her lose her credibility.

Has your ex ever mentioned (on paper or email) about having her own recorder? If so you show that and ask for proof of her claim that you swore to her at the hospital. Otherwise simply explain that these are meritless claims and she should be held to the strictest proof thereof.

You should make sure you're at every appointment, preferably with both parents there... to show that you have no issues co-parenting.

[Moolight]

Be strong, learn to ignore her lies, keep your focus on only relevant exchange with hospital employees. Remember it is a public place so if your ex loose it, it will not go unoticed.

You do not have to entertain her. Find a way if she manage to get under your skin, start singing to your daughter or read her a princess story. You will see, ignoring someone bad behavior is worst than swearing at them. She will either give up or loose it.

Keep smilling, be charming, those are the best munition you can have.

[notFeelingCreative]

-$80 will get you a recorder that will keep hundreds of hours of recordings at once. Keep a spare battery handy.

-Let the ex lie, lie and lie some more. Take notes each time to describe the important events so they are easy to look up on recordings later.

-Don't mention anything about asking her for proof...don't get her wise.

-Always be nice and courteous. Act as if you are paid to take ***** from her.

After discrediting her still take the high road and don't screw her with your own tricks.....she will end up hating the respect she has for you

[Berner_Faith]

Its my understanding that recordings are basically useless in family law? They are useful to fight off false domestic violence claims, but it has been said many times on this forum that audio recordings won't do much, if anything in the family law aspect of it

[HappyDays]

Use your cell phone only as a backup. Go into a store where you can try them out and pick a good recorder. This is your get out of jail free life that's a must. Not just for a false DV claim, but for the lies in court too.

There's usually no need for both parents to be at appointments, but it definitely helps your case. Shows that you're always involved, always available to take the kids to appointments, speaking directly to the dr's and not relying on your ex, and it shows that you have no issues co-parenting.
The recorder will either show that there are no issues or show that your ex creates issues while you stay positive.

[notFeelingCreative]

they are small too. Be careful with the buttons. I have noticed that some protrude a bit and while it is loose in your pocket could accidentally stop and then playback at a bad time.