Religion

[mom2three]

Religion does not play any role per se except when the two of you can't agree on anything; it would become a factor then, but not in the way you think.

It would be relevant only so far as it would be another thing that the parents cannot agree on and another notch for one of the parents to have sole custody. No more, no less.

[Berner_Faith]

My step kids practice religion at Mom`s house... we do not practice religion at our house (at least on a regular basis- bf is not a religious/church person) . That being said, when the kids are with us, we pray before every meal and before bed... this is something the kids enjoy and would like to do and as adults, we are able to put our own values and beliefs aside to allow the children to express their views.

In my opinion, unless it is some cult like school, there is nothing wrong with children attending a religious school. I am of the opinion that it is better to provide the child with all sorts of options (religion being one of them) and as they get older they will decide what way they want to go as far as religion is concerned.

This is not something I would fight about and if it comes down to it or comes up in court, you need to keep the child's best interest in mind and with that comes allowing the child the freedom to choose (and one cannot choose if not presented with the option).

[fireweb13]

My ex decided she wanted our daughter enrolled in a religious school, I think mostly because she knew that I am not religious (Neither is she really lol) and that it would bother me. I did the opposite of what she wanted, embraced it and tried to show that we can work together and that I was willing to give in on a major issue. Showed I was willing to work with her but that she was not willing to work. That was at a conference though, and I always found conferences were in my favour in regards to the judges opinion but motions were a different ballgame.

[caranna]

Well said, FB. For you and your bf to place your religious beliefs aside and not only permit but participate in their prayers is a very loving, mature, and balanced way to show the children that their choices and beliefs are valid ones.

To do otherwise would alienate and confuse the children, not to mention their mother. I salute you and your boyfriend. I'm sure the children will grow up to remember the respectful way both of you honoured their choices. Kudos to you both for not making religion a point of contention.

[fireweb13]

Well said, FB. For you and your bf to place your religious beliefs aside and not only permit but participate in their prayers is a very loving, mature, and balanced way to show the children that their choices and beliefs are valid ones.

To do otherwise would alienate and confuse the children, not to mention their mother. I salute you and your boyfriend. I'm sure the children will grow up to remember the respectful way both of you honoured their choices. Kudos to you both for not making religion a point of contention.

Catholic is much better then her stint as a Jehovah's Witness because of the boyfriend she was with before her current one lol.
You have to pick your battles.

[SynGreis]

doesnt matter. religion can be defeated with common sense most often.

[SadAndTired]

I too think that to avoid that battle, you simply give in Iceberg. Agree and say "Sure, we can pick a parochial school." I will help in anyway I can.

I did find a canlii decision in my searching for something else, where a judge allowed one parent to have every Good Friday and Easter Sunday weekend as one parent was Catholic and the other was not. It is a very important weekend in the Catholic faith so the judge said the religious parent was to have the children so they could attend church, etc. It did not affect custody though.

To attend a Catholic school, one parent must be Catholic as well. What is the status quo? What does the child attend now? If she is already enrolled public, the decision has already been made.