Using my illness vs me....what to do

[standing on the sidelines]

nothing, dont respond. Get a note from the doctor in case she tries to use it against you later.

[hadenough]

Do not respond. GO to a doctor. Get a friend to take you. Get a prescription. You will have a record of your legitimate illness. Go to a doctor today, it sounds like you are very ill

[arabian]

Metaxa in tea help mes when I get a really bad cold. You either kick the bug or you feel a tad hung-over the next day.

Definitely get some sort of confirmation from a medi-clinic or doctor. Hope you feel better soon.

[mom2three]

You are not an unfit father and have to remember that! You also know that you are dealing with a high conflict parent to you need to constuct your emails to reflect that.

You are ill and also in a unique circumstance. Records can be your friend at this time (as sad as that may seem)

[standing on the sidelines]

A few friends of mine swear by putting an onion cut in half beside the bed.

[dinkyface]

I'd be tempted to respond only by wishing her the best of health.

[dad2bandm]

As others have pointed out, get a Dr.'s note, confirming your illness, and keep the prescription receipts that you had to get for your illness. Also keep the texts (or try to use email) (documentation) from Mom, where she lambasts you for this.

I would say you are a very "fit" father, in that you don't want to expose your sick child, to your illness. That is a common-sense, and child-centred decision. Given your daughter's health-history, and current condition, to do otherwise would be irresponsible.

Why would your daughter have to "miss" school for a week, because you are sick? If your daughter does miss school, because Mom won't take her, then you should document that as well.

Unfortunately, it sounds like, whatever you say, will never get a "child-first" response from Mom, as she does sound like a high-conflict parent.

Get well soon.

[arabian]

If your sick your daughter should stay away with her compromised immune system.


You should have private messaged me - would have made you some borscht or hungarian chick goulash soup That would fix you right up! Lots of hot paprika to get your blood flowing again.

Hope you are feeling better.

[Canadaguy]

Mom now has a reason why she "can't" take the child to school. Pulled her tooth out.

Yesterday however she was 100% and said as long as I am sick the child will stay at her place and wont go to school, she said it verbally.

Make sure you put what she said verbally in writting. Always send an email the next day with "as per our verbal conversation, this happened, was said, et." followed by "if this is incorrect in any way, please advise in writting in response to me."

Be careful because your ex might pull a stunt where she won't give you the child back until you provide a doctors note saying you are healthy. Be prepared for that.

By her keeping the kid home from school for the sole reason that she doesn't want to drive her to school beacuse it is far away is good for you to use against her in court. Definitely not in the childs best interest.

[dad2bandm]

Mom now has a reason why she "can't" take the child to school. Pulled her tooth out.

Yesterday however she was 100% and said as long as I am sick the child will stay at her place and wont go to school, she said it verbally.

Your child lost a tooth, so now can't go to school? Or do you mean Mom lost a tooth? I don't see how either would affect school attendance. Kids losing their baby teeth is a non-issue.