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Hello all,
Well, I'm going through a divorce, and we seem to be heading for trial instead of settlement.
Upon separation, I had offered to grant my wife exclusive possession and ownership of all assets, including the home and savings, while also offering to take care of all debts, which at the time were only a car loan, on the sole "condition" that we agree on shared custody, with shared living arrangements for our seven year old son. This was a verbal offer and the wife declined it. She sent me a written offer without prejudice via her lawyer asking for everything (which I have no problem giving her), but refusing to agree on shared/joint custody. I refused. Since then, it's been the "I said, she said" scenario.
To make matters worse, she got fired from her job after separation. Since then, she is voluntarily unemployed, but lying in her pleadings and affidavits that she is looking for work. At our case management conference, the judge ordered her to return all the money she had taken from a joint line of credit with me without my consent (over $20K) minus interest paid. She acknowledged. Two days later she told me that she would be returning less because she had used her own money to pay for some paint work around the house, and that she needed to get that money back.
The contractor that did the painting was her brother in law, and at the time, she told me he had not charged her anything. Now she went and asked him to make up an invoice for $2K, which she used to justify her lie and return less money than what was ordered.
I have evidence to prove that she is voluntarily not looking for work via an email that I got by accessing her email address; I also have screenshots of a text message she sent to her sister asking her to fabricate an invoice to justify the paint work. Both of these items were obtained by accessing her smartphone.
I was told that these records cannot be used in court because of the nature of their origins, but how can I then prove that she is lying and in perjury?
If I go ahead an insist in presenting these documents, what is my penalty for breaking her privacy? It can't be worse than her manipulating the legal system and perjury.
She is doing all this by gambling her chances of maximizing spousal support, while getting my son used to living with her all the time (because she has decided to not work) and thus also maximizing child support. It's all about the money for her, and I can't possibly let my son be brought up in an environment such as that. My son needs her, yes, but he also needs me, and she is not a good role model right now.
Advise please!!!
Well, I'm going through a divorce, and we seem to be heading for trial instead of settlement.
Upon separation, I had offered to grant my wife exclusive possession and ownership of all assets, including the home and savings, while also offering to take care of all debts, which at the time were only a car loan, on the sole "condition" that we agree on shared custody, with shared living arrangements for our seven year old son. This was a verbal offer and the wife declined it. She sent me a written offer without prejudice via her lawyer asking for everything (which I have no problem giving her), but refusing to agree on shared/joint custody. I refused. Since then, it's been the "I said, she said" scenario.
To make matters worse, she got fired from her job after separation. Since then, she is voluntarily unemployed, but lying in her pleadings and affidavits that she is looking for work. At our case management conference, the judge ordered her to return all the money she had taken from a joint line of credit with me without my consent (over $20K) minus interest paid. She acknowledged. Two days later she told me that she would be returning less because she had used her own money to pay for some paint work around the house, and that she needed to get that money back.
The contractor that did the painting was her brother in law, and at the time, she told me he had not charged her anything. Now she went and asked him to make up an invoice for $2K, which she used to justify her lie and return less money than what was ordered.
I have evidence to prove that she is voluntarily not looking for work via an email that I got by accessing her email address; I also have screenshots of a text message she sent to her sister asking her to fabricate an invoice to justify the paint work. Both of these items were obtained by accessing her smartphone.
I was told that these records cannot be used in court because of the nature of their origins, but how can I then prove that she is lying and in perjury?
If I go ahead an insist in presenting these documents, what is my penalty for breaking her privacy? It can't be worse than her manipulating the legal system and perjury.
She is doing all this by gambling her chances of maximizing spousal support, while getting my son used to living with her all the time (because she has decided to not work) and thus also maximizing child support. It's all about the money for her, and I can't possibly let my son be brought up in an environment such as that. My son needs her, yes, but he also needs me, and she is not a good role model right now.
Advise please!!!
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