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    I sent an email to my childrens dad with his thoughts on us moving to alberta where he resides (not the same town tho haha) and asked if he had any reservations or concerns as a dad, he wrote back that moving to alberta would be the best decision i have ever made. I got consent on paper! yaay now when i tell my lawyer in ontario that I plan on moving i don't think she will be happy how should I proceed if she wants me to stay? Do you think it would strictly be $$ motivated as both parents would reside much closer only increasing the opportunity for a better relationship any thoughts and advice as to what to do thank you all.

  • #2
    Who cares what she thinks or if she is happy? If you are confident that you are making the best decision for your children then so be it. Unless she has some valid LEGAL advice on why you shouldn't do it, then why is her opinion even a factor?

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    • #3
      thanks you

      I agree thank you. I just find this process so daunting and with an uncooperative ex I am just exhausted.

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      • #4
        Why would your lawyer care where you lived if you and your ex agree to it? It's a breath of fresh air to hear about two people who can work together and solve issues without spending hundreds of dollars on lawyers going back and forth.

        The only thing may be to officially ammend a separation agreement so that it's current if key things change within it with the move...if you think that's important enough to do.

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        • #5
          we don't have a separation agreement. I just dropped off my financial info to my lawyer this morning to start the process! I figure she will tell me to hire a lawyer in alberta once i get there!
          my stbx had just left abandoned everything here and moved in with his lady friend haha soo i am relieved that the kids will see and feel positive and accepted and happy now!!

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          • #6
            Good for you ringetteplayer...it's all about the kids in these cases. Alberta is a great province. I wish you the best of luck!

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            • #7
              thank you it's not easy and i do get judged for moving closer to their dad. Don't get me wrong I have no wants or desires to be in a relationship with him ever again good lord no however i do want my kids to have a relationship with their dad. I do think he can be a great loving dad when he wants to be. so I think its up from here on..... well wait until spousal and support come into play! haha however that's all candy, when I know the kids are getting/feeling and being loved like they should be.

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              • #8
                I miss Alberta, you will love it and you are doing what's in the best interest of the children! That's what matters and as for your Ontario lawyer, who cares, they certainly shouldn't judge.
                Best of luck and enjoy your new life.

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                • #9
                  Hmmm

                  I guess my only real concern would be if once I
                  Get there can he ( their dad) order the children not to move a certain distance from him? How do I prevent that?

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                  • #10
                    All that stuff should be in your separation agreement...make sure what you want is in there. Mine says neither of us can move more than 30km without written consent from the other.

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                    • #11
                      I wonder if that is why the Lawyer wants the separation in place before you move. If you move 4 hours away (I believe you said previously) he could kick up a storm & say you should have moved within a reasonable distance but instead intentionally moved far enough to keep the access to a minimum ... I would ask her reasoning prior to making a decision

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