Well, this morning my wife said she want to talk about us ... she basically said that her feeling have not changed since last November 2005 and that we should sit and talk about moving forward with seperation/divorce.
I have tried my best in the past months to be a different person and to avoid things that robbed our relationship of love and do things that would build it back up .... seems I was not doing the right thing or that there just was not enough time for the seeds I was planting to bear fruit.
I embraced her gently and said I was sorry that I had tried everything in my being to save us ... she said "I know you've tried".
I feel like a piece of me and history is about to be lost.
I guess I'm in a mild form of shock, but I am trying to remain optimistic as this is my nature ... funny eh, alot of people would be in a state of panic/shock, however, a big part of me is in a state of calm ... thanks to looking upto Him.
Question is, where do I go from here? There are so many decisions to make. She seems to feel we can iron out the seperation agreement ourselves and that she has a draft written up by a lawyer, I'll look it over and have a lawyer go over it ...
So many questions about what to DO ... DecentDads article that points to how outdated famliy law is and that it is more advantageous to give one spouse soul custody is nagging at me. Another part says, to heck with it, 50/50 and we'll make the finanaces work somehow.
I could sure use some help from friends on this forum ... it's a sad day for me and I'm struggling to keep the tears at bay.
Peace and blessings to you all.
Hubby
I have tried my best in the past months to be a different person and to avoid things that robbed our relationship of love and do things that would build it back up .... seems I was not doing the right thing or that there just was not enough time for the seeds I was planting to bear fruit.
I embraced her gently and said I was sorry that I had tried everything in my being to save us ... she said "I know you've tried".
I feel like a piece of me and history is about to be lost.
I guess I'm in a mild form of shock, but I am trying to remain optimistic as this is my nature ... funny eh, alot of people would be in a state of panic/shock, however, a big part of me is in a state of calm ... thanks to looking upto Him.
Question is, where do I go from here? There are so many decisions to make. She seems to feel we can iron out the seperation agreement ourselves and that she has a draft written up by a lawyer, I'll look it over and have a lawyer go over it ...
So many questions about what to DO ... DecentDads article that points to how outdated famliy law is and that it is more advantageous to give one spouse soul custody is nagging at me. Another part says, to heck with it, 50/50 and we'll make the finanaces work somehow.
I could sure use some help from friends on this forum ... it's a sad day for me and I'm struggling to keep the tears at bay.
Peace and blessings to you all.
Hubby
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