I am not sure that I am in the right forum for this but if anyone has any knowledge, advice, or insight in my issue, please feel free to make your opinion known. Thank you in advance.
My situation is this..... 15 years ago I was with a man who would eventually cheat on me, I had just found out that I was pregnant but had decided to go it alone. I did not tell him about the pregnancy until after the breakup. He made the choice at that time to not have anything to do with me or the children we were expecting. Yes I have twins with this person.
I decided when my children were almost 4 to take the father to court to help with the upbringing of our children. He fought the paternity, DNA was ordered and confirmed. He at that time again gave up all rights and access to the children but was ordered to pay child support.
Two years ago, I guess you can say I was having a brain malfunction, because I allowed this man to re-enter my life as well as my children. It was a great relationship at first, but it deteriorated fast. I soon realized that the only thing he really wanted out of this was our sons and to control our every move.
This man was in the process of starting a divorce with the woman he had cheated on me with. To say that it was a strenuous situation is an understatement. Anyways, we had bought a home together, to which he is still in, and now living with his parents in it.
The children and I have gone through numerous abusive behaviors not only from this man, but his family as well. I have attended the police station so many times regarding threats, assault, harrassment, etc to no avail. The Police did not protect me or my children. The day we moved out, this man was not going to allow us to take anything but our clothing, in the end with Police assistance, he agreed to allow the children to bring their bedroom furniture. He now feels that because he allowed that to happen that he does not have to divide any other contents from our home.
When we left, I was not allowed to take anything for cooking, pots, pans, etc. It was a chore to take some dishes for heaven's sake! Anyways, the furniture stayed in the home, we have a court date coming up to hopefully deal with that.
I have been granted sole custody because of the history but this man is thinking that he deserves 50/50 time with our children. I am sure that it is a financial issue on his side because he does not want to pay child support. He has been to our home a couple of times now, and does not seem to care that there is no furniture for the kids to sit on or to live in a normal home.
He does not do anything for the children, buy them clothes, food, help with supplies, nothing! Yet he feels that he deserves to have more. I know that the courts are trying to push for 50/50 custody on parents, and I am concerned that this may be an issue that he will try to keep in court for a long time to come. My children do not like this man very much, they feel that he is a liar, abusive, and he has caused them much hurt and disappointment along with his family.
My question is has any had to deal with something similar? And does anyone know whether or not I am out of luck with respect to the contents of the home? It was ordered by a judge that it be divided, but he refused at the end. He makes my life a nightmare on a regular basis, as does his family. the Police seem to be more a joke than that of a group of protectors.
I am at a lose for what I can do next to get on with my life, and to help my children get back on track, I moved and hoped he would never find me, he followed a friend of mine and then suddenly he is here. I am not with him but he still feels that he can control me and the kids. PLEASE HELP! I need all I can get.
Thanks
My situation is this..... 15 years ago I was with a man who would eventually cheat on me, I had just found out that I was pregnant but had decided to go it alone. I did not tell him about the pregnancy until after the breakup. He made the choice at that time to not have anything to do with me or the children we were expecting. Yes I have twins with this person.
I decided when my children were almost 4 to take the father to court to help with the upbringing of our children. He fought the paternity, DNA was ordered and confirmed. He at that time again gave up all rights and access to the children but was ordered to pay child support.
Two years ago, I guess you can say I was having a brain malfunction, because I allowed this man to re-enter my life as well as my children. It was a great relationship at first, but it deteriorated fast. I soon realized that the only thing he really wanted out of this was our sons and to control our every move.
This man was in the process of starting a divorce with the woman he had cheated on me with. To say that it was a strenuous situation is an understatement. Anyways, we had bought a home together, to which he is still in, and now living with his parents in it.
The children and I have gone through numerous abusive behaviors not only from this man, but his family as well. I have attended the police station so many times regarding threats, assault, harrassment, etc to no avail. The Police did not protect me or my children. The day we moved out, this man was not going to allow us to take anything but our clothing, in the end with Police assistance, he agreed to allow the children to bring their bedroom furniture. He now feels that because he allowed that to happen that he does not have to divide any other contents from our home.
When we left, I was not allowed to take anything for cooking, pots, pans, etc. It was a chore to take some dishes for heaven's sake! Anyways, the furniture stayed in the home, we have a court date coming up to hopefully deal with that.
I have been granted sole custody because of the history but this man is thinking that he deserves 50/50 time with our children. I am sure that it is a financial issue on his side because he does not want to pay child support. He has been to our home a couple of times now, and does not seem to care that there is no furniture for the kids to sit on or to live in a normal home.
He does not do anything for the children, buy them clothes, food, help with supplies, nothing! Yet he feels that he deserves to have more. I know that the courts are trying to push for 50/50 custody on parents, and I am concerned that this may be an issue that he will try to keep in court for a long time to come. My children do not like this man very much, they feel that he is a liar, abusive, and he has caused them much hurt and disappointment along with his family.
My question is has any had to deal with something similar? And does anyone know whether or not I am out of luck with respect to the contents of the home? It was ordered by a judge that it be divided, but he refused at the end. He makes my life a nightmare on a regular basis, as does his family. the Police seem to be more a joke than that of a group of protectors.
I am at a lose for what I can do next to get on with my life, and to help my children get back on track, I moved and hoped he would never find me, he followed a friend of mine and then suddenly he is here. I am not with him but he still feels that he can control me and the kids. PLEASE HELP! I need all I can get.
Thanks
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