First of all I was very impressed with the support everyone was getting on this website and was hoping I could tap into some of that and the knowledge basis of the members.
A little bit of my background that got me into this situation. I'm single 30 years old and should have known better. Basically I had a one (4) night stand with a woman who said that she was on the pill. My mistake was I trusted her and didn't protect myself. That was foolish and irresponsible on my part. Anyways, you probably know what's next.
Yes, she got pregnant and gave birth to a boy and is now asking for child support. We leave in two different cities, 6 hours apart. We filled out the financial income statement and I'm in the hole every month by about $500. My problem is I financially cann't afford to pay child support. I only make $12.00 an hour. I went to lawyer and he told me based on my income it would be about $213 a month plus my share of the daycare ($700).which will come into affect in August. As well she is asking for back payments from July 2005. The women in question makes approximately $36,000 which $10,000 more annually than me. She is living with her mother in the 3 bedroom townhouse while I'm leaving in a one bed room apartment. My understanding is her mother is pulling in approximately $50,000.
While was was struggling with all this and often went into a deep depression, I had a friend (women) who helped through this and fell in love with her. She has been my rock and saviour. We are planning to get married and expecting our first child in August, which I'm very excited about. My finance is unemployed at the present time. But my past mistake with a fling is putting a terrible toll on my new life. I know I have to pay child support but after reading the Act, the court doesn't seem to favour the non-custiodal parent (especially men) and doesn't take my circumstances under consideration. It appears it is only based on my income. I hope I'm wrong. On your website you mentioned that there was book that could help my lower my payments but it seems to be geared to the US. Is there an equivalent for Ontario?
My questions are:
Is there any way on lowering the payments?
How can I afford to pay child support and look after my family? I just cann't see how I can manage it.
How can I prove that her standard of living is much better than mine?
Do I have to pay back child support to the date of the baby's birth?
Any helpful advice would be appreciated.
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