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Old 12-28-2017, 07:24 PM
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On the day we separated, once I semi-recovered from the initial shock, the first thing I did was change the sheets on my bed. And I said to myself in 1 year when I am officially divorced I am going to buy new bedding. I naively thought I would be divorced in a year. I see now that is highly unlikely. I dream of the day when I am finally divorced, receive that piece of paper, and I will buy myself new bedding. That I pick out myself, with no thought to what anyone else thinks of it, in a feminine pattern, and is obscenely expensive. Just the thing I could never do when I was married. It will be my reward for the divorce process.

I know the actual divorce paper doesn't really mean much legally unless you get married again (of which I have no intention of ever doing), but it is symbolically important for me.

did you /will you get the actual divorce and if so will you commemorate it?
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Old 12-28-2017, 09:33 PM
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better get your new sheets now...

I received my divorce within 9 months (binding arbitration) after 30-year marriage.

Problem is that my ex has kept me in litigation, disputing terms of divorce, for past 7 years.

One never knows what the future holds.

New bedding is a great idea. I have never "rewarded" myself for divorce. I have a pleasant day-to-day life now. However, I am cognizant that as I float into old age I am alone. Fortunately, I like myself and can cope just fine with a good book, fine wine and pleasure of watching whatever the hell I want on TV, when I want to.

Get the sheets!
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Old 12-29-2017, 12:52 AM
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I know the actual divorce paper doesn't really mean much legally unless you get married again (of which I have no intention of ever doing), but it is symbolically important for me.

did you /will you get the actual divorce and if so will you commemorate it?
It can mean more than you think, especially in the event of your death. Your ex might get some of your assets, even if you don't want him to! Even if you have a will or separation agreement saying otherwise, he can contest it as your legal spouse. Some pensions have unexpected rules about division of survivor benefits for spouses, even if long separated.
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Old 12-31-2017, 09:44 PM
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6+ years separated, no SA. My divorce order was granted in November, final a couple weeks ago. Yesterday I attended the courthouse to obtain my “divorce certificate”. GOD does it feel good to have that in hand...regardless of future plans!
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Old 12-31-2017, 09:45 PM
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And I will buy sheets, too. Even though X kept the originals.
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My divorce was granted in 2010, but the real end date is 2027 when the support payments end. How's that for a bloody symbol.

My divorce lasted as long as the damn marriage.
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My partner bought a bicycle. He was never allowed to spend money on himself without a fight or to have a nice bike. He went and spent $700 on a bike he loves.
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