Some background:
- My ex moved out in March of this year. He stayed with his mother for about a month then moved in with his grandmother. He moved out of the area and since neither of us drives, he cannot do overnights during the week when school is in session (or so he believes).
- His grandmother has decided to move back to Montreal so he will be moving into another apartment.
- My ex has been under fire from his family about the amount of time he has been spending with S7 since the divorce. He generally takes our son from Saturday evening to Sunday afternoon but cancels a lot (although he has been better about this recently).
- He and I spoke this past weekend and I told him that I thought he should be spending more time with S7. I also reminded him that I wanted us to be 50/50 if at all possible.
So here is my dilemma. He wants me to take over his lease and he will move to another apartment close by. I realize that moving closer means that he could theoretically see our son more often but there are a few issues that I have doing this. Here goes:
- The apartment costs more and is in a worse neighborhood than I'd like.
- The school in the area isn't as good as the one our son currently attends.
- I don't feel comfortable moving our son away from his friends, school, daycare, scouts etc...
- Moving right now would be difficult since school will be starting soon and I am still recovering financially from bankruptcy.
I really want to do what's best for our kid but I'm not sure what that is. My head is spinning and I don't want to make the wrong decision. At the moment, I'm leaning toward staying where I am and asking him to look for something closer to us.
I'm feeling torn about this so I would appreciate some advice. Thanks.
- My ex moved out in March of this year. He stayed with his mother for about a month then moved in with his grandmother. He moved out of the area and since neither of us drives, he cannot do overnights during the week when school is in session (or so he believes).
- His grandmother has decided to move back to Montreal so he will be moving into another apartment.
- My ex has been under fire from his family about the amount of time he has been spending with S7 since the divorce. He generally takes our son from Saturday evening to Sunday afternoon but cancels a lot (although he has been better about this recently).
- He and I spoke this past weekend and I told him that I thought he should be spending more time with S7. I also reminded him that I wanted us to be 50/50 if at all possible.
So here is my dilemma. He wants me to take over his lease and he will move to another apartment close by. I realize that moving closer means that he could theoretically see our son more often but there are a few issues that I have doing this. Here goes:
- The apartment costs more and is in a worse neighborhood than I'd like.
- The school in the area isn't as good as the one our son currently attends.
- I don't feel comfortable moving our son away from his friends, school, daycare, scouts etc...
- Moving right now would be difficult since school will be starting soon and I am still recovering financially from bankruptcy.
I really want to do what's best for our kid but I'm not sure what that is. My head is spinning and I don't want to make the wrong decision. At the moment, I'm leaning toward staying where I am and asking him to look for something closer to us.
I'm feeling torn about this so I would appreciate some advice. Thanks.
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