Both kids are attending elementary school full-time. Ex was very inisistent on having children attend school she works at part-time, even though not in the catchment of either her household or mine. I wanted the kids in school a block from my home as there is after school care and the added chance to make friends in at least one neighbourhood the kids live in. One child was already there, so I agreed, figuring the battle wasn't going to be with it financially, or for the kids (I'm sure they'd be hearing about it from ex). She agreed to provide after school care for both kids even if it meant coming from another site. I'd made it clear that I didn't intend to subsidize a part-time working choice on her part. She quickly withdrew one day of after school care because she found it a challenge to move from one worksite to another, so they were enrolled at an after school care program at the kids' school and we agreed to share the cost. When we were discussing school choice, I had informed her that this type of situation could pose problems for her offering after school care, but she assured me that wouldn't be a problem. Well....I'm not too surprised.
A couple of weeks into the school year, she gave me two days' notice that she would not be providing any after school care during my weeks--not even on days when she was on site at the school. Furthermore, she indicated that she would only be paying for the one Tuesday every two weeks that she was using. She then offered to provide the after school care if I'd pay her. Luckily , there was space in the kids' school's after school program, so I enrolled them. They enjoy it, and there is the added advantage of not having transitions that involve the ex. Kids are doing well with the situation.
Now the financial part: It is my understanding that the after school costs should be shared proportional to income even if she elects not to use them. It's not really a choice for me--I need after school care. And there's no way I'd pay ex to do it--especially given how well she lived up to her original agreement to provide all after school care (she had wanted to save money by providing it). So, does she have a reasonable case to insist that she only contribute to one day of care out of every ten? The kids (5 and 7) reside equally in both households week on, week off.
Thanks.
A couple of weeks into the school year, she gave me two days' notice that she would not be providing any after school care during my weeks--not even on days when she was on site at the school. Furthermore, she indicated that she would only be paying for the one Tuesday every two weeks that she was using. She then offered to provide the after school care if I'd pay her. Luckily , there was space in the kids' school's after school program, so I enrolled them. They enjoy it, and there is the added advantage of not having transitions that involve the ex. Kids are doing well with the situation.
Now the financial part: It is my understanding that the after school costs should be shared proportional to income even if she elects not to use them. It's not really a choice for me--I need after school care. And there's no way I'd pay ex to do it--especially given how well she lived up to her original agreement to provide all after school care (she had wanted to save money by providing it). So, does she have a reasonable case to insist that she only contribute to one day of care out of every ten? The kids (5 and 7) reside equally in both households week on, week off.
Thanks.
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