(I thought the title as fitting)
The FACT of the matter that has been proven over and over again is.
A) divorce screws up kids
Exact Claim: Generally, divorce has a negative impact on children the harm of divorce is OUTWEIGHED by remaining in a high conflict relationship.
proofs:
-http://www.hubbynet.com/savedmarriage.htm
-The key is based on the amato study (which is cited a lot on the internet and I haven't found anything shooting it down)
-read any part of this document, in almost every study and situation it says divorce has either a direct or indirect negative affect on children.
http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/f...8_2/wd98_2.pdf whether due to economic factors, remarriage, worse parenting etc.... they try to identify EXACTLY why things are worse but the root is the divorce and all it symptoms..
-many bad ppl come from broken homes Children from broken homes 'nine times more likely to commit crimes' - Telegraph
-divorce vs crime-rate: Divorce: Ignoring the cost
-this is a meta study that I like and it shows there are differences again.
http://courses.washington.edu/pbafad..._Wellbeing.pdf
-there is also the cinderella effect
This doesnt mean every kid gets screwed up but they'll be worse off generally so don't think you are doing your kids any favors, generally you are hurting them or
B) a lot of ppl eventually regret divorce
C) a lot of ppl were happier before divorce
http://www.divorce.usu.edu/files/uploads/Lesson4.pdf
D) second marrriages fail more often than first
E) children of divorce are more likely to divorce
^ D & E are know statistics, I don't need to include them here do I
F) wallerstein stuff shows divorce to be the major negative incident in the life a person (even at 35yrs of age)
What I like a bout the wallerstein study is that it ASKS the kids how they felt which I think a lot of parents and studies don't do.
Pretty Good Summary
Judith Wallerstein and divorce: how one woman changed the way we think about breakups.
G) divorced children are on average worse in every measurement etc...
(see A) At best you can argue that its not too much of a hit but the reality is that it IS a hit.
The FACT of the matter that has been proven over and over again is.
A) divorce screws up kids
Exact Claim: Generally, divorce has a negative impact on children the harm of divorce is OUTWEIGHED by remaining in a high conflict relationship.
proofs:
-http://www.hubbynet.com/savedmarriage.htm
-The key is based on the amato study (which is cited a lot on the internet and I haven't found anything shooting it down)
-read any part of this document, in almost every study and situation it says divorce has either a direct or indirect negative affect on children.
http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/f...8_2/wd98_2.pdf whether due to economic factors, remarriage, worse parenting etc.... they try to identify EXACTLY why things are worse but the root is the divorce and all it symptoms..
-many bad ppl come from broken homes Children from broken homes 'nine times more likely to commit crimes' - Telegraph
-divorce vs crime-rate: Divorce: Ignoring the cost
-this is a meta study that I like and it shows there are differences again.
http://courses.washington.edu/pbafad..._Wellbeing.pdf
-there is also the cinderella effect
This doesnt mean every kid gets screwed up but they'll be worse off generally so don't think you are doing your kids any favors, generally you are hurting them or
B) a lot of ppl eventually regret divorce
C) a lot of ppl were happier before divorce
http://www.divorce.usu.edu/files/uploads/Lesson4.pdf
D) second marrriages fail more often than first
E) children of divorce are more likely to divorce
^ D & E are know statistics, I don't need to include them here do I
F) wallerstein stuff shows divorce to be the major negative incident in the life a person (even at 35yrs of age)
What I like a bout the wallerstein study is that it ASKS the kids how they felt which I think a lot of parents and studies don't do.
Pretty Good Summary
Judith Wallerstein and divorce: how one woman changed the way we think about breakups.
G) divorced children are on average worse in every measurement etc...
(see A) At best you can argue that its not too much of a hit but the reality is that it IS a hit.
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