OCL's recommendation during Disclosure Meeting is sole custody with final decisions to me.
Ex's lawyer was to draw up Minutes of Settlement. It's been 2 months, and because I sent OCL a letter to tell them that I hadn't had a response or a draft Minutes of Settlement.
What I received was an Offer to Settle. How does that differ from Minutes of SEttlement ? If I don't agree with their Offer to Settle, can I request that the Minutes of Settlement based on the OCLs recommendations only, i.e. custody and access (and not deal with the future holidays etc) because he is still on supervised access at this point, and we are going on a graduated plan to get it to unsupervised.
I thought the Minutes of Settlement were just to cover the areas that the OCL recommended.......they have sent an Offer to Settle. which says I will have "custody of child" and make important decisions about childs welfare after consulting but .."if parties cannot agree, they will use the Dispute Resolution". (OCL recommended Sole Custody)...Is there a difference regarding their wording ?
Also that that parties will "prefer the child's interests to their own " - what does that mean...it was regarding exchange of information - didn't understand that term.
Also, stated that I would not move child's residence from our town without first providing 90 days notice and obtaining ex's WRITTEN CONSENT OR A COURT ORDER ? I don't agree to this, because eventually when our child goes to secondary school, I intend to relocate to a home closer to her school.
His lawyer said that neither party is to travel to a country who are not signatories to the Hague Convention, which essentially stops our child from ever visiting my side of the family in Singapore or even having a relationship with the family. My father is 85, very ill and wants to see his only granddaughter for the last time and I have a motion to go to court next week to get a court order to travel., and I have people who have testified to my trustworthiness and my home is here in Canada. I even have someone willing to act as my guarantor (not that I even remotely need it). I have letters from my employers, people inthe community etc who vouch for my moral character.
My daughter has been asking to see her grandfather, and all I can say is that I'm working on trying to see if we can afford it. I don't want to tell her just in case it doesn't go through.
Gosh, I just cant believe the vindictiveness that is so apparent. I do hope the courts will see that. Can't anyone see that ?
When an Offer to Settle is filed with the court.........how do I respond. Do i send a counter offer to settle and file that with the court ?
Also, what is the time frame that one has to respond. (there was no "date" listed on their offer. )
I had a PArenting Plan that was given, that was given the approval by CAS and the counsellor, and even his lawyer at the time said that it was fair.......and now this.
I suppose I'm in sort of panic mode now, because I don't want to make an error that woudl be detrimental to the intrests of our child.
Ex's lawyer was to draw up Minutes of Settlement. It's been 2 months, and because I sent OCL a letter to tell them that I hadn't had a response or a draft Minutes of Settlement.
What I received was an Offer to Settle. How does that differ from Minutes of SEttlement ? If I don't agree with their Offer to Settle, can I request that the Minutes of Settlement based on the OCLs recommendations only, i.e. custody and access (and not deal with the future holidays etc) because he is still on supervised access at this point, and we are going on a graduated plan to get it to unsupervised.
I thought the Minutes of Settlement were just to cover the areas that the OCL recommended.......they have sent an Offer to Settle. which says I will have "custody of child" and make important decisions about childs welfare after consulting but .."if parties cannot agree, they will use the Dispute Resolution". (OCL recommended Sole Custody)...Is there a difference regarding their wording ?
Also that that parties will "prefer the child's interests to their own " - what does that mean...it was regarding exchange of information - didn't understand that term.
Also, stated that I would not move child's residence from our town without first providing 90 days notice and obtaining ex's WRITTEN CONSENT OR A COURT ORDER ? I don't agree to this, because eventually when our child goes to secondary school, I intend to relocate to a home closer to her school.
His lawyer said that neither party is to travel to a country who are not signatories to the Hague Convention, which essentially stops our child from ever visiting my side of the family in Singapore or even having a relationship with the family. My father is 85, very ill and wants to see his only granddaughter for the last time and I have a motion to go to court next week to get a court order to travel., and I have people who have testified to my trustworthiness and my home is here in Canada. I even have someone willing to act as my guarantor (not that I even remotely need it). I have letters from my employers, people inthe community etc who vouch for my moral character.
My daughter has been asking to see her grandfather, and all I can say is that I'm working on trying to see if we can afford it. I don't want to tell her just in case it doesn't go through.
Gosh, I just cant believe the vindictiveness that is so apparent. I do hope the courts will see that. Can't anyone see that ?
When an Offer to Settle is filed with the court.........how do I respond. Do i send a counter offer to settle and file that with the court ?
Also, what is the time frame that one has to respond. (there was no "date" listed on their offer. )
I had a PArenting Plan that was given, that was given the approval by CAS and the counsellor, and even his lawyer at the time said that it was fair.......and now this.
I suppose I'm in sort of panic mode now, because I don't want to make an error that woudl be detrimental to the intrests of our child.
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