We have an existing final divorce order, obtained on consent, that states "parties are to communicate regularly regarding the children using Our Family Wizard". My ex insisted on us using it, and after the order was finalized, pushed me to set it up. I have emails indicating this clearly.
I set it up, and we used it for about 6 months almost exclusively. Texts were only used occasionally, generally for last minute "running a few minutes late" kind of situations, as allowed for in the order.
All of a sudden, my ex started having "internet problems", and pushed me for text messaging and phone calls only. I have tried to refuse, and stick to Family Wizard. In a couple of important matters, I have used regular email, because I can see they haven't bothered to log into Family Wizard for months.
Now, they outright refuse to use email or Family Wizard. They are pushing me for using a communication book, and phone calls. They sent a book, which came in the backpack of our D6, who is an avid reader with good comprehension. The comments in the book, in my opinion, would not have been good for our daughter to read. So I removed the book, and let my ex know why, and that I do not consent to the book, and that we need to use Family Wizard, as per our order.
They are accusing me of being high conflict, because I will not consent to the change. I know that they have internet at home, and on their cell phone. They have posted 50+ times on facebook groups (including Canada Court Watch), in this period when they "have no internet", but never once during this time have they used Family Wizard or replied to an email.
They have recently declared that they will not share information (such as health card numbers, sin numbers) with me unless I consent to the change.
Am I out of line, and being high conflict, to keep insisting on Family Wizard? Verbal communication does not work - they have accused me several times of saying things that I didn't, and every time I try to be firm with them on the phone, they accuse me of being threatening. Their email communications are out of control - why would I expect anything else in the communication book? Their first attempts at it, have shown they don't realize the potential harm to the children in what is being communicated.
Some kind of communication needs to be in place, for matters regarding the children. Should I, in the best interests of the kids, be backing down and trying the communication book, or should I stay firm with Family Wizard?
I suppose I will have no choice other than to file a motion to enforce using Family Wizard. I have offered mediation, but that has been refused by the ex as well.
Any thoughts? And thoughts about how to get the use of Family Wizard enforced?
I set it up, and we used it for about 6 months almost exclusively. Texts were only used occasionally, generally for last minute "running a few minutes late" kind of situations, as allowed for in the order.
All of a sudden, my ex started having "internet problems", and pushed me for text messaging and phone calls only. I have tried to refuse, and stick to Family Wizard. In a couple of important matters, I have used regular email, because I can see they haven't bothered to log into Family Wizard for months.
Now, they outright refuse to use email or Family Wizard. They are pushing me for using a communication book, and phone calls. They sent a book, which came in the backpack of our D6, who is an avid reader with good comprehension. The comments in the book, in my opinion, would not have been good for our daughter to read. So I removed the book, and let my ex know why, and that I do not consent to the book, and that we need to use Family Wizard, as per our order.
They are accusing me of being high conflict, because I will not consent to the change. I know that they have internet at home, and on their cell phone. They have posted 50+ times on facebook groups (including Canada Court Watch), in this period when they "have no internet", but never once during this time have they used Family Wizard or replied to an email.
They have recently declared that they will not share information (such as health card numbers, sin numbers) with me unless I consent to the change.
Am I out of line, and being high conflict, to keep insisting on Family Wizard? Verbal communication does not work - they have accused me several times of saying things that I didn't, and every time I try to be firm with them on the phone, they accuse me of being threatening. Their email communications are out of control - why would I expect anything else in the communication book? Their first attempts at it, have shown they don't realize the potential harm to the children in what is being communicated.
Some kind of communication needs to be in place, for matters regarding the children. Should I, in the best interests of the kids, be backing down and trying the communication book, or should I stay firm with Family Wizard?
I suppose I will have no choice other than to file a motion to enforce using Family Wizard. I have offered mediation, but that has been refused by the ex as well.
Any thoughts? And thoughts about how to get the use of Family Wizard enforced?
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