Hi there,
I am looking for feedback from this forum to help me along making some daycare decisions for my son. I am in a high conflict situation, and I am getting absolutely no communication coming from my ex other than the usual threat of litigation.
My son is 10 1/2 years old. He is outgrown daycare and is starting to act out and clearly voicing his displeasure at the daycare. Things need to change.
I have 50/50 access with joint custody (parallel parenting), however daycare selection is joint decision making.
My ex wants to move my son to a new daycare with me paying a larger portion of the cost (about 2/3 as a section 7 expense). Furthermore, she wants to keep him in a daycare for at a minimum the next 3 YEARS or until he is about 14 years old.
In my home, I have a 11.5 year old and a 9.5 year old who have been walking to and from school since September with no issues, and my wife works from home 3 days a week. My son has expressed great enthusiasm in being able to be independent and to happy to be walking to and from school. On the days where my wife goes into the office, the kids have a maximum of 20 minutes of unsupervised time. They have access to neighbours, cells phones, etc... my home is also less than 300 meters from the school and the kids do not require crossing any roads. They have also all followed the home alone course to help prepare them for this step.
My ex refuses to agree to anything, other than me paying for daycare that is clearly not required. I think it is important for my son to learn independence and he is mature for his age. We went to see a child psychologist, who agrees with this, however stated that if my ex didn't want to deal with having the child in my care for before / after school on her days, then she should be free to make accommodations at her cost. My EX will have nothing to do with this and will settle for nothing less than me paying for daycare because she is unwilling to let my son spend time with his family instead of a complete stranger and insists that I pay this as a section 7 expense, even though I am happy to provide this care at no cost.
Am I out to lunch? Do you think a court would side with her? This appears to not be about the child, but according to the psychologist, has to do with the mother's own insecurities and anxiety.
Help and thank you to this great forum, you've been an invaluable source of inspiration and a good sounding board.
I am looking for feedback from this forum to help me along making some daycare decisions for my son. I am in a high conflict situation, and I am getting absolutely no communication coming from my ex other than the usual threat of litigation.
My son is 10 1/2 years old. He is outgrown daycare and is starting to act out and clearly voicing his displeasure at the daycare. Things need to change.
I have 50/50 access with joint custody (parallel parenting), however daycare selection is joint decision making.
My ex wants to move my son to a new daycare with me paying a larger portion of the cost (about 2/3 as a section 7 expense). Furthermore, she wants to keep him in a daycare for at a minimum the next 3 YEARS or until he is about 14 years old.
In my home, I have a 11.5 year old and a 9.5 year old who have been walking to and from school since September with no issues, and my wife works from home 3 days a week. My son has expressed great enthusiasm in being able to be independent and to happy to be walking to and from school. On the days where my wife goes into the office, the kids have a maximum of 20 minutes of unsupervised time. They have access to neighbours, cells phones, etc... my home is also less than 300 meters from the school and the kids do not require crossing any roads. They have also all followed the home alone course to help prepare them for this step.
My ex refuses to agree to anything, other than me paying for daycare that is clearly not required. I think it is important for my son to learn independence and he is mature for his age. We went to see a child psychologist, who agrees with this, however stated that if my ex didn't want to deal with having the child in my care for before / after school on her days, then she should be free to make accommodations at her cost. My EX will have nothing to do with this and will settle for nothing less than me paying for daycare because she is unwilling to let my son spend time with his family instead of a complete stranger and insists that I pay this as a section 7 expense, even though I am happy to provide this care at no cost.
Am I out to lunch? Do you think a court would side with her? This appears to not be about the child, but according to the psychologist, has to do with the mother's own insecurities and anxiety.
Help and thank you to this great forum, you've been an invaluable source of inspiration and a good sounding board.
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