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My ex and I have been separated since 2005 and divorced since 2008. We have joint custody of our 2 kids (9 and 7 yrs old) with me being the primary residential parent. She is to see the kids every other weekend and two nights per week, however she has never exercised her right to weekly access and only sees them every other weekend. I live in Kitchener and she in Mississauga. I waived the right to any support payments.
Lately she has been making noises to me about taking me back to court to change the custody arrangement and get the kids back living with her primarily. She is on welfare and has led me to believe she has a welfare lawyer lined up.
She keeps emailing me telling me that the kids want to live with her and that they "hate it at their dad's house". She says they always express how they want to go to school in her city and miss her terribly. All of this is untrue as the kids are very happy with me and tell me so all the time. Since they started living with me and going to school in our city their grades have improved tenfold, there is now structure and love in the home and they have made loads of friends in our neighbourhood. They do however express to me that they miss their mum. I understand why as she never comes to pick them up for her weekly access and so they only see her every other weekend.
She has now resorted to telling them they will be coming to live with her soon and promising them things when they do. Like video game consols, a new house with an indoor pool, new bikes etc. My younger son is convinced they will be living there soon and has expressed some excitement. This is natural because it is like a holiday over there. She lets them do whatever they want. All structure is thrown out of the window, bed times are not respected and the kids are noticably different when they come back from there.
My question is this. Will the courts put any weight on her claims that the kids want to live with her? She keeps saying she is going to "get a child psychologist to speak with the kids and show the courts where the kids want to live". Is this possible and should I get my own child psychologist? How can I get her to stop telling my kids these lies and grilling them about how "unhappy" they must be at dads.
Nevermind the fact that I have had custody for 3 years, there is now a bond with their two baby brothers, and she has not even lived up to her obligations for weekly access. She has no license (lost it due to DUI) and can barely afford her accomodations.
Am confused about my position.
My ex and I have been separated since 2005 and divorced since 2008. We have joint custody of our 2 kids (9 and 7 yrs old) with me being the primary residential parent. She is to see the kids every other weekend and two nights per week, however she has never exercised her right to weekly access and only sees them every other weekend. I live in Kitchener and she in Mississauga. I waived the right to any support payments.
Lately she has been making noises to me about taking me back to court to change the custody arrangement and get the kids back living with her primarily. She is on welfare and has led me to believe she has a welfare lawyer lined up.
She keeps emailing me telling me that the kids want to live with her and that they "hate it at their dad's house". She says they always express how they want to go to school in her city and miss her terribly. All of this is untrue as the kids are very happy with me and tell me so all the time. Since they started living with me and going to school in our city their grades have improved tenfold, there is now structure and love in the home and they have made loads of friends in our neighbourhood. They do however express to me that they miss their mum. I understand why as she never comes to pick them up for her weekly access and so they only see her every other weekend.
She has now resorted to telling them they will be coming to live with her soon and promising them things when they do. Like video game consols, a new house with an indoor pool, new bikes etc. My younger son is convinced they will be living there soon and has expressed some excitement. This is natural because it is like a holiday over there. She lets them do whatever they want. All structure is thrown out of the window, bed times are not respected and the kids are noticably different when they come back from there.
My question is this. Will the courts put any weight on her claims that the kids want to live with her? She keeps saying she is going to "get a child psychologist to speak with the kids and show the courts where the kids want to live". Is this possible and should I get my own child psychologist? How can I get her to stop telling my kids these lies and grilling them about how "unhappy" they must be at dads.
Nevermind the fact that I have had custody for 3 years, there is now a bond with their two baby brothers, and she has not even lived up to her obligations for weekly access. She has no license (lost it due to DUI) and can barely afford her accomodations.
Am confused about my position.
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