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I don't know that I have ever intimidated her. I mean, I have always been supportive of her.
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If you told her you were going to take the child and raise him/her, that's pretty darn intimidating. You've got a lot of work to do to gain her trust back after that.
I don't know that I have ever intimidated her. I mean, I have always been supportive of her.
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If you told her you were going to take the child and raise him/her, that's pretty darn intimidating. You've got a lot of work to do to gain her trust back after that.
You keep mentioning that this girl has questionable reasoning skills but truthfully I'm wondering a bit about yours and so would a judge.
This girl is young...she may not have the best home situation...and she may even be unbalanced...but all of that didn't stop you from not only getting into a sexual relationship with her but also impregnating her. You certainly didn't help her outcome in life.
At this point, you have an obligation...not just to this child...but to this girl. If you can help her at all, you really should. In my opinion, you took advantage of someone who is much younger than you...but by your own admission sounds emotionally stunted. That's pretty messed up. The response to that is not to then add to the injury you've committed by suggesting that you're also going to take her baby away.
Pregnant women generally are pretty hypersensitive about some guy who took advantage of their age and immaturity also suggesting that they're going to take their baby away when its first born. I'd imagine that if she has any feedback from anyone close to her in life...they're telling her to stay the hell away from you.
I'm having trouble understanding why you don't grasp this. But listen to the posters here who've been through custody cases. You don't have a case yet. Do whatever you can to make amends to this girl so that you can both help her and get to see your child when its born. You have an obligation to try to fix what you've done as the capable adult in this situation. Then start documenting your interaction with her and the child. That way, IF you can't help her...you can start proving your case for custody.
By the way: A pregnancy...especially an unplanned one...can make even well-adjusted, older women emotionally unbalanced. Its hectic to your physical and mental state...very hormonal time. So I wouldn't put too much stock in anything that happens during pregnancy as a necessary indicator for future behavior. Its hard to tell, she's very young and I doubt this is the way she wanted to become a mother.
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