When my X and I split up a year ago I agreed to 50-50 custody. I agreed to his suggestion of 2-2-3 rotating days with our daughter. (I get her 2 days, he gets her 2 days, I get her 3 days, then we switch.) At the time I was advised that wasn't the way things are normally done and "they" usually prefer week on/week off or weekends as the division of time. But I agreed with my X that long time between seeing the other parent might be hard on a 2 year old.
However now my daughter is due to start JK in September. While we live fairly close together I believe the week on/week off would be better and provide her more stability. I don't like the idea of her not fully understanding to who's house she will be going to that night (and I doubt the school would be able to keep our timetable straight). Granted, she's too young to be walking home on her own but I feel it's still a saftey concern that she won't be able to communicate that tonight she's at Dad's or Mom's. I also feel it would be better for her not to be lugging homework and such back an forth through out the week and again, just give her more time to get accustom to the patterns of one household before switching back to the other. Overall, I think at 4 she's old enough, and has been dealling with the back and forth long enough, that a week away from one parent won't cause her any undue stress (although I may be missing her mid-week, but that can be solved with dinner/lunch with the other parent on Wed or something.)
My concern is the X disagree's with me. (As a rule he disagrees with anything I suggest and always makes it out like I don't want to see my daughter - between you and me he's not too bright since it's the exactly the same amount of days.)
So,
Is this a material change?
Should I even bother taking this to court or would a judge just think I'm being petty since I'm not changing the amount of time, just the duration?
Am I over-reacting? Is the week on/week the preferred method or should I just leave things alone?
However now my daughter is due to start JK in September. While we live fairly close together I believe the week on/week off would be better and provide her more stability. I don't like the idea of her not fully understanding to who's house she will be going to that night (and I doubt the school would be able to keep our timetable straight). Granted, she's too young to be walking home on her own but I feel it's still a saftey concern that she won't be able to communicate that tonight she's at Dad's or Mom's. I also feel it would be better for her not to be lugging homework and such back an forth through out the week and again, just give her more time to get accustom to the patterns of one household before switching back to the other. Overall, I think at 4 she's old enough, and has been dealling with the back and forth long enough, that a week away from one parent won't cause her any undue stress (although I may be missing her mid-week, but that can be solved with dinner/lunch with the other parent on Wed or something.)
My concern is the X disagree's with me. (As a rule he disagrees with anything I suggest and always makes it out like I don't want to see my daughter - between you and me he's not too bright since it's the exactly the same amount of days.)
So,
Is this a material change?
Should I even bother taking this to court or would a judge just think I'm being petty since I'm not changing the amount of time, just the duration?
Am I over-reacting? Is the week on/week the preferred method or should I just leave things alone?
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