One thing I would be careful of (this was mentioned early in the thread) is a parent saying "mom and I agree on..." or "mom and I don't want...". Personally, I think it is best for the parent dealing with the child in a situation like this to ONLY speak for themself and never to infer what the other parent may think, believe or do, regardless if it is on the same page as you. It is too risky. As there may be a time and place that the parents don't agree, and your word/opinion/rule, etc. will still be expected to be enforced.
But as for the child's behaviour, it can happen. It is awkward and difficult to work through. But by the same token I wouldn't send my kid over for a play date before school knowing dang well it would end in chaos when I try to take them away. A little common sense from the mother in this situation would really help the child. Mom should have a transition home for the child before Dad comes. Or better yet, ask the dad if he'd like to have the child over for a play date and he can pick up both kids at the same time
But as for the child's behaviour, it can happen. It is awkward and difficult to work through. But by the same token I wouldn't send my kid over for a play date before school knowing dang well it would end in chaos when I try to take them away. A little common sense from the mother in this situation would really help the child. Mom should have a transition home for the child before Dad comes. Or better yet, ask the dad if he'd like to have the child over for a play date and he can pick up both kids at the same time
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